DD1 has anxiety and panic attacks. She has good spells and bad spells. Currently in a bad spell because we have all had Covid so all of her normal school and exercise routine has gone out of the window.
When she gets stressed, she gets breathless, rigid, her heart and mind race, she gets jumpy, can't stand normal family noise, activities etc, hides in her room, sometimes hides under furniture. She also gets very angry, is violent towards her two younger siblings and even sometimes us, shouts and yells at everyone, slams doors, throws things...the works.
A lot of the time she saves this behaviour just for me and her younger brother. On bad days, like today, it feels like all I get. Sometimes DH suggests I cause it. But I think it is more that she feels safe enough to throw it all at me.
Whatever the cause, I find it triggering. I am being pushed beyond the limit of my patience here. It is reaching a point where as soon as she walks up to me with her shoulders up at her ears and says something in her special breathy stressed voice, I just want to get away. I flail between trying to empathise and telling her I can't deal.
Every other tween has anxiety now it seems. How is everyone else coping please? What is the best way to parent this?
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ElfinsMum · 12/04/2022 10:27
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