What do I do?!!!

[princessx1993]

No judging me...I’m already at my wits end and crying my eyes out over this!!

My 11 year old started secondary school this year....yes I know how hard it can be! Unfortunately she didn’t get to finish Year 6 as we moved house very suddenly in May (council so was quick) and there was no spaces in the local schools so we had no choice but to Home Ed for a few weeks as I couldn’t drive her to and from school every day.
Since starting secondary school she’s struggled is much to make friends! It’s killing me and her!
She was being bullied by another girl but this was dealt with fairly quickly.
But she’s now stealing money to buy people sweets and drinks to make them be her friends?!
I don’t know what to do I really don’t 😓😓😓

My partner thinks she needs more freedom to go out with her friends....but 1) she gets home and it’s dark 2) she has 0 common sense

Please help?

[MrsOverTheRoad]

Speak to her form tutor immediately. How do you know she's not telling the truth when she says she's no friends?

[Icantfindausername]

Maybe keep the others out of the room that afternoon and tell her it will be her space for that afternoon, keep the other occupied in another way x

[princessx1993]

I’m gonna suggest this to her but the issue she has is she isn’t her own room either! So the other kids are here too and she doesn’t like it x

[Icantfindausername]

Why is she embarrassed about her siblings? Could she have a friend round and they watch a dvds in her room and play some games like “dreamphone” get them some sweets and popcorn etc? Personally I would try and help her establish a good friendship with a couple of close friends xx

[princessx1993]

I suggested inviting someone round and she said she didn’t want too because she’s embarrassed of her siblings. She’s being lying about it since Monday and finally owned up last night when I had her bang to rights. She says she does it because she has no friends which I know is rubbish

[Icantfindausername]

Could you ask her to invite someone round for tea or something and let them hang out together and get to know each other?
Have you caught her stealing money? And has she admitted why she’s doing it? x