Hi,
I am concerned about my daughter's weight and don't know what to do.
My dd is 11yrs, 153cms and 8st. She has never been skinny, but not fat either, she has basically been following the 75centile in height and 91st in weight and still is, but she is very chubby round the middle.
She has always been in clothes older than her age - mainly due to her height, but sometimes because of her tummy. She can't fit into jeans very well and lives in jeggings, leggings and the likes. She has now become body conscious and is getting upset that she is bigger than most of her classmates (to be fair she doesn't look fat all over, just heavy and has a big tummy).
However, I am a bit confused why, as she eats healthier than most kids in her class and my 13yr old ds (who doesn't have an ounce of fat on him).
Typical day :
Breakfast-
Sachet golden syrup porridge with 1% fat milk
Cup of milk
Snack - quavers or Apple
Lunch-
warburton thins
Laughing cow or tuna and salad
Grapes
Carrot sticks
Kit Kat or Alpen bar light
Snack - carrots and mini hummus pot or breadsticks / rice cakes etc
Tea-
1 Tortilla wrap with homemade chilli and salad or
Fishcake, 1.5 waffles, half mini tin beans
Salmon, new potatoes and broccoli
Etc
Then Ski mousse or ww yogurt
I have counted it on myfitnesspal and it's about 1200 cals. She eats more at weekends but not overly. She has no sweets during the week but allowed treats on Friday and Saturday.
She does netball at school, but her other activities aren't sport based so I am aware she needs more exercise - will be addressing this after Xmas.
I had to have a conversation with her about it as she would constantly eat if she could and her brother is growing so needs more and she thinks this is unfair - like I said though he is a teenager, slim and constantly hungry. I am terrified it will become an issue but said we should all be more healthy etc not focussing on only her (but she thinks I am singling her out and gets upset).
I feel like I am going about it all the wrong way, she would be fine if she was 7st 2lbs (be 75th centiile for height and weight then) but should I try and help her lose weight or what? I love her more than anything in the world, but 1 friend said i am setting her up for future weight issues And another said to nip it in the bud now and control it while I can control what she eats. Am feeling overwhelmed.
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Worriedmum72 · 24/11/2015 20:01
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