I really need advice. My DD (10) has always only had one friend right from nursery school. I would classify her as a bit of a loner and has a side to her that can be very opinionated and stubborn and obstinate although not a leader (she hates to be told she is wrong and can be very immovable or inflexible but is also quite insecure and a worry pot at times but on the whole is a wonderfully caring, empathetic child (I know that is a contradiction) although she does gets on with other kids a lot but seems to have put all her eggs in one basket with this little girl, so never takes up other friendships or shows interest in pursuing them.
Unfortunately this friendship has come to an end. My DD is devastated and disappointed that friendship isn't what she thinks it should be.. The friend refuses to talk to her now and wont disclose what her side of the breakup is about. So I cant help her fix herself. All that I have heard is that my DD bosses her around (is that perhaps jealousy or stubbornness??) and that she just wants to play. So I can see that the friend might be frustrated with my DD.
I just dont know how to help her or what to say to her. I also don't want to break her spirit but want to let her know that her attitude could be part of the problem...
I am the kind of mom that believes that there are always two sides to every story and that there are some factors that I might not be aware of creating this minefield of hurt and emotion on both sides (although it would seem the other little girl has moved on and quite happy getting on the tormenting nasty bandwagon with her other friends at this stage and seems adamant to hurt her more)
This little girl, has started being friends with three other girls, who I have been told are always in trouble with the teachers (from other parents). My DD found these girls sticking pins into their fingers, drawing blood to write something on stones (I know I was horrified too). When they saw that she had seen it, was scared she would report them to a teacher and told my DD to get lost and that she isnt wanted in their group. (I also dont know if my DD is only telling me the edited version)
I am worried beyond words and feel so sad for them that such a longstanding friendship is gone. I feel like I am missing something thats right in front of my face and just cant see it. Any advice and help would be appreciated. Has any one experienced anything like this...
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PurpleGarnet · 14/12/2014 15:43
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