Dh has a 10yr DD we have her half the time and struggling with her constant backchat so with his permission I am posting here to ask for some help!
The problem is her not being able to go to bed at night and go to sleep, she has an ipad and instead of listening to her story as agreed at bedtime she is playing games which stops her going to sleep.
It's been agreed by both parents that all electrical things are turned off an hr or so before bed. Last night however when dh said she could listen to a cd not take her ipad she pleaded begged and promised she would only listen to the story she had on there.
Of course that was horse shit and dh found her 15 mins later playing on it so took it off her which then caused a huge tantrum and her screaming her head off in and out of bed for at least an hour.
Dh eventually lost his temper and told her she had lost her ipad privilege for a week. Her standard response to anything is to shout 'IT'S NOT MY FAULT' roll on this morning. Dh woke her up and had to go in to her 3 times to get her up, she was tired and grumpy and started yelling at dh when he told her to get up and start getting ready for school.
Rarely does dh lose his temper with dsd but he's had enough, Her constant need to argue and backchat really gets to him, she all but told him to F off this morning, slamming doors shouting he didn't love her the list goes on.
As a rule unless her rudeness is directed at me I keep my distance but will support my dh in front of her.
She shows no remorse for her behaviour, there is never an apology she seems to believe she is entitled to yell and scream and have the last word. Her mum is also at the end of her tether, dsd tenacity is draining and ignoring her has no effect whatsoever.
She appears to think that it is her parents job to take her to bed and get her to sleep and if that's is not happening then it's the job of the iPad. At 10 dh would like her to get herself to sleep. She's tired alot of the time and no matter what time she is sent to bed it's the same story if she's not getting what she wants.
The other morning when dh refused to go and help her get dressed she shouted 'for god sake..just come here'
Can anyone give any advice on how to stop her backchatting and her rudeness?
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WholeNutt · 28/11/2013 18:37
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