DD is in Year 6 and has a fairly solid group of school friends since reception class. Of late cracks are appearing in their friendships; the usual girl stuff of cliqueness, bitchiness etc. DD does get upset with it all and I am trying to teach her how best to deal with situations when they arise.
I and a few other mums got an email in the week from "Jo"s mum telling of a joke played on her dd that day, which I guess was the final straw to her, but in the context of all else that is going on with the group I consider minor. She then went on to list the other issues that Jo had been having, which I could totally emphasise with as my dd "Mary" had had similar. Of course Jo was very upset by it all, and would never be nasty herself. I asked Mary about the joke and she immediately realised it had been wrong and wanted to apologise for her part in it.
So I was in the school yard the next day when Mary tried to apologise to Jo, who was not yet ready to listen. I also raised it with the class teacher who kindly engineered a situation to allow them to talk. As far as I was concerned that was the end of it (although the underlying issues involving the whole group remained).
I was therefore stunned last night to receive a personal email from Jo's mum, thanking me for reminding Mary how to be a good friend, getting Mary to apologise and to tell me that I was out of order and acting inappropriately in approaching Jo in the yard. That was a red rag and I just had to email straight back..
"Mary has been on the receiving end of similar incidents and I understand that Jo has not been totally innocent in this. I hope that this will not occur again. In attempting to speak to Jo yesterday I was supporting my child as any parent would. I cannot promise not to do the same again in future should the need arise."
I probably should have just ignored shouldn't I?
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Meery · 18/11/2013 12:15
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