Dd started high school in Sept and prior to that went round to other friends houses and vice versa at weekends.
Now in high school she has some same primary school friends but also others whom we do not know. That itself is not a problem, as I would rather she broadened her netwotk.
So on to today - asked if could go to friends house and to local shops. She arranged time, we dropped her off on way out elsewhere and asked that she text us to let us know where she was, when moved from friends house to shops and so on. So we basically knew where she was at a given time. Didnt receive one text and no reply to the two I sent - one to say we were home and the other to ask where she was as was 4pm and been out since 12.30 and not heard from her. Also phoned her phone but no reply.
Eventually tracked her down through her friends mum who I knew suggesting her battery had died! Drove round local area to seek her out prior to that but no sign and starting to get dark.
Tore a strip off her in car on way home to drum home the importance of letting one of us know where she was, and not to go somewhere else than where she had planned to without letting us know. Told her she had one more chance to earn our trust and what would I have been expected to do if it had been a friend whose family we did not know, which is quite likely. She was also told she would be grounded for a week if she didnt keep in touch when next out.
She didnt really see the big issue and why we were creating such a fuss. What did I do wrong or how should I have handled it better?
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How do I get Dd 11 to understand the need to keep in touch when out?
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androbbob · 17/11/2013 20:27
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