DD is 11. Today I went into her room and she quickly put her hands behind her back and closed her curtain. I asked what she was doing. 'Nothing'. I asked again, and she stroppily showed me a crisp packet. Now when they get in from school they have a snack - biscuit, fruit, toast - something reasonably filling usually, so I was a little surprised. I then saw she was hiding other things, and asked her to show me, which she did, with maximum tutting and 'everyone does it' and 'I'm just hungry when I get in.' There was basically the remains of a load of junk - crisps, sweets, chocolate bars etc etc. All taken and eaten in her room without us knowing.
I don't have a problem with the occasional crisp/chocolate snack (in fact it's about all we've been having snce Easter ) but it's the underhand and sneakiness in it which upset me, plus the whole worry about hidden food and it developing into something else - I want her to have a healthy and happy relationship with food. She knows she can help herself to fruit whenever she is hungry, but in this house the dc ask if they want something like crisps/sweets - they know they don't just help themselves.
I sat her down calmly and told her that if she is hungry that is fine, she should tell us, and she can have a good filling snack. She's starting to develop and is on a growth spurt so will naturally be hungry. There has never been any problems with weight - she's always been very slim. I have no worries about this, more about the nature of the 'stealing'/lying.
She actually burst into tears and said she was glad we found out as she was feeling guilty
Anyone had similar happen, and how did you/would you deal with it? Shall I do anything more? We have told her that as a consequence she won't have crisps in her lunchbox for a while as she has eaten the ones we brought for this purpose. Is that far enough? Or am I making a fuss about nothing?
Apologies for the length of this, it's all new territory for me.
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madhairday · 08/05/2012 16:49
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