I just need some advice. I&#39;ve been with husband for 5 years married 2. <br>Im pregnant at 35 and although surprising news, I want to keep the baby. My husband on the other hand is saying he’s not ready for a child (also 35) and says he wants to have an abortion. This is devastating for me. He has been clear with me though that he didn&#39;t want kids for another couple of years so I can&#39;t say it came as a surprise. <br>I love him so much, I don’t want to do it but I don’t want to lose him. He said that if I go though with it our relationship will be negatively affected forever and he won’t be able to forgive me for taking the decision out of his hands. He said it&#39;s not fair that the decision just falls with me. <br>I suffered some depression and anxiety problems last year and he says he doesn’t think I’m mentally strong enough to deal with a baby or our relationship having problems as a consequence of going through with the pregnancy. This has upset me and makes me feel that I would be a bad mum. I also can&#39;t contemplate the thought of us staying together through the next 9 months with such a Strain on us. We&#39;re quite social people and it&#39;s going to be awful telling people the news as they&#39;ll be over the moon for us, I&#39;ll just be mortified by this as I&#39;ll know he&#39;s dying inside. <br>What do I do? I’m so upset I can’t stop crying. I don’t want to tell anyone close to me in case they judge us and think he’s a bad person or that I&#39;m weak. <br>He said in a couple of years he’d probably be ready. I don’t know what to do now. We are barely even talking and the atmosphere at home is so stressful. <br>I was forced into an abortion I didn&#39;t want to have with my previous partner ten years ago and the guilt has never left me. I can&#39;t believe this is happening again.