Any plus size mamas to be out there?

[JLM1008]

Hi

Is there any ladies who are plus size and expecting? I’m a size 22 and my bmi is 48. I’m only 4wks 3days along but wondered how you’re feeling? This is baby #3 but I was a couple of stone lighter with my last 2. I’m already struggling with my clothes because my boobs have gone up a full cup size already and I feel a bit down about the way I look. 😩 I’m also conscious that I won’t really have a baby bump until I’m at least a few months along because I have a big tummy.

[KHR1]

Congratulations @addler he's adorable!

Hi all, hope it's not too late to join! Currently about 5 weeks with my second. Size 20/22 and bmi of 40. My BMI was around 35 at the start of my last pregnancy so feeling more anxious with it being over 40 this time! Is there anything additional that they might do with me having a higher BMI this time? I had growth scans, GD test, higher dose folic acid and aspirin last time!
Hope you are all well and had a nice Christmas!

[addler]

Glad everyone's doing well. I have birth two weeks ago yesterday via c section after developing pre eclampsia at 41+3. Section was lovely, all the staff were wonderful and respectful and the moment they placed DS on my chest was the most incredible moment of my life.

I have to put a maternity pad over my incision after I took the dressing off so it stays dry under my apron belly, and blood thinning injections for six weeks but apart from that everything else is standard.

Squishy pics since I can't show him off to people in real life at the moment!

[TakeMeToYourLiar]

Glad you are doing well OP

I have my c section booked for Wednesday 🙈

[JLM1008]

Hi ladies! I’m doing well, I’m 24+2 now and baby is very healthy. I’ve gained just over a stone but I’m trying not to let it bother me. I have 2 extra growth scans at 28 and 34 weeks to check baby isn’t getting too big. Have been offered a stretch and sweep at 38 and 39 weeks. Also offered to be induced at 40 weeks to stop baby getting too big. Everyone has been really kind to me even though I’m very obese (bmi 52) and it hasn’t affected my pregnancy at all.

[SarahFrances89]

@BabyC21 hello! I’m 37+3 and had a BMI of 32 at my booking apt (5ft7 and size 16/18). Everything has luckily been fine, I have an extra growth scan next week (standard at my trust is just scans at 12 and 20 weeks) as baby was measuring big at 20 weeks but that’s because of baby’s size not mine (@LJMilkTea mentioned wondering about extra scans). It was a bit hard when risks were mentioned a few times as they actively don’t want you to lose weight when pregnant so you just have to listen to ‘here are all the dangers’ with 0 things you can do about it but everyone was very non-judgemental about it, just clear and factual. I am on 5mg folic acid but otherwise nothing else different. There have been questions about whether I’ll be ‘a candidate’ for the birth centre because of my BMI but haven’t had a no yet, hoping if baby is big at next week’s scan that doesn’t stop me. I was feeling really bad at the start about not getting a ‘proper’ bump and just looking fat rather than pregnant (which obviously doesn’t matter anyway), but around 6 months it did suddenly turn into a clear bump though I’m sometimes still self conscious. I was reminded that all the risks of being pregnant with a higher BMI are risks that women at any weight can have too, and GD etc is manageable as long as it’s found. Sure you and baby will be grand, @babyc21! :)

[PopsicleHustler]

Good morning. I am 18 to 20 in size. And have a bmi of 41 or 43. This is my 5th baby. I like being curvy but hoping to go back down to a 14 after I have this baby. Would really like to get back to the size I was when I first met my hubby.

Pregnant with 5th child also. Due in 5 weeks, God willing .

[BabyC21]

Hi ladies, I know this thread is 3 months old but I wanted to check how you are all getting on? I am 4+2 and have a high BMI so I am panicking a little. Please share all your positive stories with me x

[SnickerdoodleSnek]

Hello lovely mamas to be!

I'm 9+6 weeks, and my first scan is in 2 weeks.

I'm 5ft3, size 16-18 and BMI was 36 at my screening appt. I was warned about risks and will be given extra folic acid as well as aspirin in second tri to reduce risk of GD. Luckily the midwife hasn't been too bad about it, and I'm trying to remain hopeful despite the risks.

I have a bit of a B-belly too so I'm praying for a decent bump! My SIL is bigger than me and was when she was pregnant. The didn't get much of a bump tbh, but she went on to have two healthy babies, so I'm hopeful.

DH and I were TTC for about a year, I have PCOS so I'm feeling quite lucky it was only a year really. Definitely getting all the symptoms, though thankfully no sickness, just nausea!

I'm getting more nervous as the scan gets closer, but I'm also just impatient to get the scan to make sure baby actually exists and is doing okay! 🤞🏻

[LJMilkTea]

Hi everyone 👋🏻 This seems like a really welcoming thread. Currently 22 weeks, BMI of 35 and 5 foot 2 🙄

Everything has been ok so far. Was on 5mg of folic acid and am on 150mg of aspirin as my Mum had pre eclampsia with me. That’s scares me a bit but BP has been fine so far. Trying to exercise 3 times a week not for weight but for BP and trying to ward off GDM (have my GTT in a few weeks).

I found the site Big Birthers quite useful as it talks a lot about the actual risks of things and managing those conversations. No one has mentioned anything but I was worried about it at the start.

I am wondering if I would need an extra growth scan or consultant appt with my BMI. Nothing has been mentioned. Does anyone have any experience have any experience?

Hope you’re all good and enjoying the cooler weather!

[Snorlax86]

Hi @Sausage1990 and everyone else, I hope you’re all getting along well with the pregnancy!

[Sausage1990]

Hi ladies👋🏻 it's all been quiet here for a little while so I thought I'd drop in to say hi and see how everyone is 😊

Hope you're all doing okay! Xx

[JLM1008]

That’s fantastic news @TakeMeToYourLiar how exciting! I have an early scan booked for a week tomorrow just to check little bean is in the right place after having some left sided abdominal pain. Not severe pain but just want some reassurance.

[TakeMeToYourLiar]

[quote JLM1008]@TakeMeToYourLiar how was your scan? All ok?

Aw I feel for you @angieb89 I can’t imagine how hard it is carrying twins! Don’t worry about the weight 😘 you’re doing a fab job.[/quote]
So sweet of you to ask.

We are having a little girl and all seems well with her :)

Now my mission is to find decent maternity clothes!

[JLM1008]

@TakeMeToYourLiar how was your scan? All ok?

Aw I feel for you @angieb89 I can’t imagine how hard it is carrying twins! Don’t worry about the weight 😘 you’re doing a fab job.

[angieb89]

Hey!! Im 32 weeks pregnant with twins. This is my 2nd pregnancy. I was 121kg, BMI 39.1 at my booking appointment. I am now seriously struggling :( no idea what I weigh as I really petrified to see what my weight is. Stairs are almost impossible and even just walking to the toilet is a challenge. I'm even struggling to wipe myself after going for a wee!! And don't get me started on finding mat clothes :(

I wish I could tell me past self to lose weight before getting pregnant again coz this is no fun.

I wish you all the best our there ladies!

[TakeMeToYourLiar]

It's so stupidly hot, thunderstorms here today and I'm still melting.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and I am so so nervous. I'm really worried something is going to be wrong

[BronzeSilverGold13]

@Sausage1990 @Sheera1 @Teapotdespot
It's really sad when I think about how my older sister has had such a difficult relationship with food and I've gone the same way! From the ages of 14-18 I did dance as subjects in school and college and yet I ate very little but she still tried making me do the 5:2 diet, the fasting thing?
It's so hard because since I was very young she's worked so she fed me chicken nuggets and chips and then wondered why I didn't want to eat veggies! I'm not even lying when I say from 6-13yo I never say veg in our house! She's always been on some sort of diet.

I know she'll make comments all through my pregnancy especially as it's my first! I wouldn't say I eat atrociously! I just don't have a great metabolism! The thing that annoys me is every woman in my family gets compared to each other, so my auntie compares me to cousins etc!
I'm just not the type of person that can enjoy life on a strict diet! It's boring!

Hope you're all enjoying your days today! Sorry for hijacking the thread with DM issues haha

[Sausage1990]

And an update on the line progression I was worried about... Progression is looking really good 😊 I was actually super shocked to see the line so dark yesterday. My week indicator tests arrived yesterday afternoon so I did one of those too. I know i don't need to test so much but as I'm super early still and had a CP last time, seeing the line get darker is super reassuring for me.
😊💕

[Sausage1990]

So sorry to hear so many of you have tricky mothers around weight. My mam is slim too and always has been a size 10-13 but has always been on diets my whole life. As has every other female in my family. When I started to want to go on diets it was encouraged, not in an unkind way but okay let's do this together... But I've the years as I've failed my eating got worse and the disordered eating because a huge issue for me. I look back now and get so frustrated because the me that started dieting was a size 10 and I cannot believe that my mother, aunties, grandma etc all just supported me & my twin sister wanting to lose weight. I'm very grateful that after some hard discussions with the support of my councellor I managed to get my mum to understand by disordered eating and these last few years she's really come to understand my mindset. Health is not just about the physical it's also the mental. I am much healthier in my bigger body (size 18) and eating better than I was in a smaller body (size 14), binging in secret and excessively restricting in public. I'm more at peace now with my body than I was at a size 10 or 12. I'm happier for it. The other day I really realised how far she'd come when I said I would like to be a little slimmer but I'm in no rush... Her reply was it doesn't really make a difference what size you are as long as you look after yourself and are happy, thats the most important part 💕💪🏻

And we must all remember that our babies won't have to go through what we went through because we will show them and teach them that size does not define your worth 💕

[Sheera1]

I promise to all the new mums on here with B bellies. You will get a nice bump. It might take a wee while to show on first pregnancy but will def get there. I had a wee hanging apron under mine but only anyone seeing me naked saw that and that was DP and medical staff only.

[Sheera1]

Yes my DM has a real problem with food herself. Basically has starved herself her whole life. Yes she is tiny and skinny and her hand ups she passed on to me but pushed me the opposite way. When I look back at pics of a very skinny young me 16/17/18 and she used to say I needed to lose weight it makes the blood boil. It is her hang up not mine. Do have very unforgv9jg Gene's from my dad's mum and can out on weight looking at food. To lose it I need to excercise a lot and eat very little.

My diet is actually very healthy. My issue is alcohol and portion size and not exercising enough. I lost 10 stone 8 years ago being very focussed (and divorcing). I broke my foot and the gym stopped and I out it all back on with crazy ease! Not making excuses for myself as I know I am lazy too, but my sis and I would go to slimming class eating the same and exercising the same and I would put a pound on and she would lose 4.
I find comments to lose weight from my parents really pushes me the other way. We know we are heavier. We know it better than anyone. It doesn't need to be said as if that is the miracle to spur us into action.

[Teapotdespot]

@BronzeSilverGold13 nip that in the bud now, your body, your baby, your rules. Mines the same, super opinionated and seems to believe im still 12. I'm 29 with a mortgage and a husband! She grabbed my hand to cross the road the other day!

Working together is probably not helping as you said!

Also, my mum started me on low fat diets aged 7, I was on slimfast shakes at 9... then she wonders how i ended up with disordered eating, PCOS and a horrific relationship with food!

[BronzeSilverGold13]

@Teapotdespot my DM is very opinionated, she definitely believes that her way is the best! She was still trying to put me on a diet at 18/19...

I suppose it make things harder because we work together....I just had to ring the midwife self referral team, I got a user busy tone she said "call the back, keep calling until they answer" I said "yes I know what user busy means!" She then went in a strop because I "snapped" at her trying to help! I fear I'm going to be In for a long road ahead of her thinking I'm incapable of making my own decisions! I totally I understand that she's trying to come from a good place but i am fed up with her telling me what I should eat and what I should wear!

Rant over, sorry ladies!

[Teapotdespot]

@BronzeSilverGold13 i will never understand why mothers of big women think it's appropriate to police their eating. Mine used to do it too until i told her I didn't want to spend time with her if all she could talk about was my weight. She made an effort to stop. She started up again when she found out about my miscarriages and this pregnancy, but I've told her in no uncertain terms that she doesnt own my body and doesnt get to decide what i put in it, whether that's food or a baby!

[Teapotdespot]

Hi all, BMI 45, 3rd pregnancy but 2 ended in miscarriage before 6 weeks and I also have PCOS, so we've been trying 5 years.

I'm 6+2 based on when i know I ovulated. I've had 2 scans so far due to one sided pain and early blood loss, first scan was just a thick lining, 2nd was a gestational sac in the right place (last Saturday). They're scanning me again on Saturday where we're hoping to see a yolk sac and possibly even a fetal pole and heartbeat.

I have a b shaped belly so expecting not to really have a bump, loving the bump photos though!