Please help with stressed out newbie....
My DS is 3.6. Started potty training at the October half-term, as both pre-school staff and I thought he was ready, (going up to toilet and taking nappy off to sit on toilet, at home and pre-school)
Six weeks later,(and a lot of puddles) he would wee in the potty if he had nothing on bottom half. Still wet/soiled himself at pre-school, as obviously couldn't cavort about half-naked there. I started getting calls from pre-school saying he had wet himself and was crying and distressed. He had previously gone to the toilets with them to have nappy changed, and would sit on toilet quite happily. Not any more!
I jacked it in for a while to give him a break. I didn't want to put him off pre-school and he had started crying in his sleep, saying "Don't want the toilet, mummy".
So we tried again at Christmas, and now he will, most of the time, take his trousers and pants down, run to find his potties. Or goes on the toilet.
But not at pre-school. He just wets/soils and says nothing. (He wets at other people's houses, but does actually say he's wet.) Pre-school are trying to find a solution, they have tried stickers, star charts, picture of favourite toy stuck by toilet...It's like he's never been trained at all 
We tried huggies pull-ups last week, but he started wetting at home again, so I really don't want to continue. Put him back into pants today, told them, (kindly, don't want to upset anyone) and got a phone call to say they'd changed him twice already (t'was early 
)and if he did it again I'd have to come in and change him.
They are lovely people, all kind, caring. I really feel for them because they have to stop to change him, clean him (and the floor)and it takes them away from the other children.
Any notions of what's going on in his head? Ring any bells? Or will it just take time? If you got this far and still reading, I thank you.....
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Trained at home - but not at Pre-school
DratMrsCarkeek · 17/01/2011 22:26
Hello, kt, I've name-changed...
I feel your pain. Six accidents in one day 
cripes. Did they have enough dry clothes? I feel a tad guilty as DS has actually [whisper] been dry these last two days, although I haven't found out yet whether he's been going to the toilet or just hasn't needed to go, inexplicably. I don't want to jinx anything...
I have a feeling of dread and heartsink every time someone says "Can we just have a word with you?" when I bring DS in to school. I have also run out of things to suggest.
I've tried just about every approach apart from sticker charts, reward charts. He wouldn't have been bothered. They tried it in pre-school, to no effect. But I'm glad they did try anyway.
I hate ringing our group practise doctors for the same reason - ring on the dot of 8.30 am when they open and it's engaged solidly then until about 9 am, then they say "Sorry, all the morning appointments are gone. If you'd like to make an appointment for afternoon surgery ring up at 1.30 pm. No, you can't make an appointment now." If it isn't an appointment for my DCs I don't want to bother.
I hope you get an appointment (and some answers maybe?) soon. 
That's good - I'm keeping my fingers crossed that mine will, without knowing, mysteriously start copying yours.
Hello, Witsend, thanks very much for replying.
Glad your DS is getting there!
With my DS, the problem is the poor teachers ask him if he needs to go and he always says no. Then wets himself 5 minutes later. They try just taking him and he refuses to have a go, then wets himself 5 minutes later. (Although, I have to say today has been quite good, as he has done two wees for them, so we are making progress)
We will have to draw a curtain over the Poo Incident that had me hurrying up to school with spare shoes today though - too painful.
Sorry didn't reply yesterday, my DH hogged the laptop all night. I've had a busy daytime all this week, so haven't been near. Bah.
I had a giddy moment on Thursday when I picked up DS and he was wearing the same trousers he'd gone in with, and no carrier bag of wet things. he said "Mummy, I did wee and poo on the toilet!" Cue much mad excitement from me, hardly damped when staff member explained they'd taken him along to the toilets and he'd obliged. Clearly, it was "due" and if they hadn't, he'd have wet and soiled himself, but it was still a result and I made much of him.
Glad to see your little fella's making good progress!
I have seen quite a few posts on a similar vein and there's a lot of truth in what they said to you at nursery. I guess it's all just going to take time. Sigh.
Hi again Maria
Just seen on your thread what's going on with yours!
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