Hi,
Only just joined and first post here, looking for some advice please as I don’t know what I should do. My son has recently turned 18, a few months back I confronted him as I had a suspicion he was or had tried vaping. He said that yes he had tried it a couple of times with friends, but wasn’t really his thing, although he has friends that regularly vape. I genuinely believed him and was relieved, (I do realise there are far worse things teens and young adults can be doing) but for me this was quite a big thing. My father has lung cancer and has been receiving treatment so everything crossed and hopeful the treatment will be a success.. My son is also aware that other than the fact I am anti-smoking/vaping anyway the fact my father with the lung cancer is also why I feel so strongly about it.
I have recently found another vape in his room, wasn’t searching for anything it must have fallen from his pocket. I haven’t said anything to him yet about it and don’t know how I should address it. I am well aware he is an adult and can make his own decisions but I’m struggling with this. I don’t want to just let it go and accept that he vapes,(how frequent or infrequent I don’t know) I am sure I could smell weed when he came home the other night from a friends house, but as yet haven’t directly brought it up, as he would only get annoyed and deny it. He does know I suspect something. Tbh I also don’t know if he was doing anything or if he was around friends that had been doing it as the smell lingers. He has previously stated that he would never do drugs of any kind. It’s making me so unhappy and with the other stress and worry of things I just don’t know how to approach it with him. We are in the house along with my father and apart from the fact I don’t want him to be getting involved in anything like this regardless, I worry about the kind of lifestyle and health issues it would bring for him. I find it unacceptable he’d be doing this with my dad having the lung cancer. Any advice would be grateful, I hope and pray that this is something we can get past, that’s it’s a bit of experimental stuff and he stops but I don’t want to allow him to come home after possibly doing such things. I’m at a loss, I know if I confront him it will be denied and end up in arguments anyway,. It’s so hard to not get mad and shout when you know they’re lying, (about the vaping anyway). So any advice appreciated, i will just add it’s not the kind of thing he’s ever done before. Has only just finished last year at school and has an offer for uni, but since turning 18 has been going out loads at night, he doesn’t have a job but did get some birthday money which is what he’s been using for his nights out etc. I don’t mind the fact he goes out, I was young once myself and would often go out to clubs etc, it’s just I find it really hard to trust him now. Thanks for anyone taking the time to read/reply.
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Anon324 · 30/07/2022 17:10
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