My fiancé's ex is a narcissist. We have 50% custody and a legal agreement in place. Contact is minimised to email only and for emergency situations only or if arranged need to change.
Our main concern at the moment is our 4 year old. Although we don't believe she is in immediate danger there are some concerns around her care at her mum's. Anytime we pick her up after a night at her mum's she's tired and either falling asleep around 5.30pm or asking to go to bed. Her usual bedtime is 7pm.
There's also other issues with her wearing the same clothes multiple days and sleeping in them, her diet (cookies for breakfast, cereal for dinner) and her hair is always dirty and tuggy and sometimes even matted. But we need to pick our battles.
Our main concern just now is her sleeping pattern. Especially since she starts school next year. I'd hate for her to be falling asleep in class.
She has a strict bedtime routine at our house that she seems to thrive on. She gets around 12.5 hours of sleep a night and she's full of energy all day. We never have any issues with her going to bed, she gets up on the odd occasion for the toilet but apart from that sleeps right though. Also no problem getting her up for nursery.
We would like to address our concerns with her mum but we fear there could be ramifications. She's withheld contact before and pulled other stunts so it's really hard to predict how she'll react. At the same time it's not fair on the little one if she's not getting enough sleep.
Anyone dealt with this kind of issue or have any advice on how best to deal with it? We're at our wits end. Thanks in advance.
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MrsMcT · 29/09/2022 18:41
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MumE78 · 29/09/2022 19:55
I suggest you keep a diary and take photos, if she's being neglected you lol need to prove it and you'll need help. Speak to nursery/school and maybe contact your local authority as bout your concerns.
If no one knows your concerns no one is looking out for her!
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