Hi everyone
so my beautiful son is nearly 3 weeks old and at night the only way he will sleep is on his Moses basket mattress on my bed, now I know about SIDS and I’m driving myself potty about it thinking I’m putting my son at a major risk. He is both breast and formula fed. Every time I put him in his Moses basket he screams the house down and then I have to pick him up again and the cycle repeats.. the only way I’ve noticed he sleeps is if I take the mattress out the basket and put the mattress on my bed free of any loose blankets or pillows and I put his blanket over him tucking the sides in if that’s makes sense? i have my own separate blanket so hes no where near any loose things. Please be gentle with me as I’m a very anxious sleep deprived new mum and I already feel like I’m a failure as a mum :(
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Is this a major SIDS risk?
Samiibaby · 22/09/2022 01:13
Samiibaby · 22/09/2022 01:47
@startfresh i was just literally talking to my husband about the owlet sock and we have decided we are going to buy it
have you used it at all and is it good?
USaYwHatNow · 22/09/2022 01:51
Hey! My baby is also 3 weeks old. I'm a midwife and have sadly been involved in the investigation of 2 SIDS deaths before I went on maternity leave. I vowed I would never co-sleep and drilled the risks and dangers into my husband over and over again. What's the only way my boy will settle overnight? Yep you guessed it, in our bed or on me! And now I have my husband badgering me like I did to him. A bit like you, I make it as safe as I possibly can each time. If he's in the bed withme he's away from my husband and I (super king bed) no duvet or pillows near him and a blanket tucked around him to keep him warm. If he falls asleep on me then I put pillows around me and wrap a Swaddle muslin around him and tuck it in around my torso to stop him rolling. In all honesty its just whatever gets you through I think!
Derbee · 22/09/2022 09:37
Done correctly, Co sleeping is the safest thing for your baby. Don’t bear yourself up. You’re clearly being careful, and doing what makes your baby comfortable. Even safer if you’re breastfeeding during the night, according to research
BertieBotts · 22/09/2022 08:22
I think it will be fine, but I'd just put baby directly on your mattress. It doesn't have the friction with the sides of the mattress to keep the blanket tight. However, IME when you co-sleep and kind of curl around them, you're aware enough to keep track of the blanket and adjust it throughout the night.
This is how it's recommended to co-sleep safely.
HowVeryBizarre · 22/09/2022 01:23
I used grobags with DD which saved the “will she slip under the blanket” angst. We also co-slept. I swore with my other two I never would then had the baby who would only sleep that way and when you are sleep deprived you do what you have to. You are definitely not a failure, you are doing everything you can to keep your baby safe and yourself sane. Good luck.
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