Here's a query - was wondering if anyone has any ideas or suggestions that might help me out of present predicament? Predicament follows:
I'm currently in the process of potty training my 27 mnth old. Everything's been going swimmingly during the day - we're really happy to wee on potty/loo seat when suggested (not forced or anything - lots of praise when do and so forth) and frequently do so (although to be fair, we're also quite happy to wee on floor/in panties/on partner if potty not proffered when appropriate). My problem is at bedtime. She uses the loo, I put her into bed, story read, settled down under sheets. I go downstairs. Ten minutes later, calls of 'Mummy' and she's jumping up and down, pointing at nappy area and making wee-wee noises (not a great talker). We go to bathroom, sit on loo seat - she sits enthroned going red in the face and making loud grunting noises (caught this from partner, I think, not that I've watched). A few drops of wee might be pushed out. Then trainer pants back on, hands washed, 'bye-bye' said to wee. Back into bed (no story this time). I go downstairs. Ten minutes later...'Mummmeeeeee'......and it all starts again, this time with no wee, but same grunting noises!
I've had this, pretty much every night for two weeks now (since training started) and it's gone on for about two hours (during which time, she's probably really wanted, and done, a 'proper' wee once). Only ends either if I get into bed with her, or if I let her cry herself off to sleep (which is horrible, but when she's so tired I feel I've no choice really). I do feel in a bit of a cleft stick, too. I so want to encourage her to use the potty/loo - and her to ask for it, but I honestly don't know whether she wants to use it, or has just found a marvellous way of keeping Mummy around past bedtime. I'm meant to be working in the evenings, really - and although it is quite funny - watching all these wonderfully overacted toilet motions (followed by hopeful peerings into the loo by both of us), I've started to feel a sense of humour failure coming on. Oh, and if I totally ignore her first calls she's prone to taking nappy off.
Any suggestions/advice/ideas would be so welcome. I've explained to her ad infininitum that even big girls wee in the nappy at night and that it really doesn't matter, and I have to say I'd have more sympathy if she once asked to sit on it for a wee during the day. I've tried letting her make her own way to bathroom (surreptitiously watched) - and she ignored loo, but started to run herself a bath (cold water) and climb into it - so that's not an option. I don't think she's ready to be dry at night anyway, to be honest - I certainly don't expect her to be. Maybe I've started training too early? But then she seems really happy about it during the day, and I'm really loathe to discontinue it now, since it seems to be going well - bowel movements etc have all been in potty pretty much from when we started - she does ask for it then. Sorry this is so long, but I'd really appreciate any suggestions. Am totally puzzled as to what to do at the moment.
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Toilet training quandry at bedtime - any suggestions?
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FrancesJ · 15/07/2002 13:14
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