I'm hoping I can reach out to anyone who is or has been in a similar situation.
My father in law which we thought was amazing was sentenced on 3rd December for sexually abusing both of our daughters. One is now 17 and it stopped when she was about 9 and the other is 11 and stopped also when she was around 9. It all came out at the end of June 2021 when he had commented on a dress the eldest was wearing on her what's app profile. He commented 'I like that dress sexy' with a sweating imoji. He'd been touching both of them for years under clothing.
My husband has lost all of his family. They have disowned him. He was never close with his brother so there was no love lost there, but his mum was his absolute everything. Any worries he had ever in his life he'd be on the phone to her. We saw her most days, went on holiday with both his dad and mum and had endless meals out/days out. The man we thought the world of was sexually abusing them when we went to work or had some time to ourselves. It took alot of guts for my eldest to reveal what he'd done to her and she only really knew she had been abused when she did sex education in year 6. He never denied it, he admitted it to the Police and his excuse was his wife wasn't giving him any sexual attention! I had to hear in court of how his wife was fully supportive yet she didn't go to court to listen to his disgusting ordeal. I heard lots of desperate attempts to try to stop a custodial sentence such as his wife needs help out of the bath, he's her carer yet she walks everywhere no problem, his elderly mother had medical issues and even one if his children was mentally disabled which wasn't true.
They think that we are 'punishing' my mother in law by stopping my children seeing her. Little do they realise that why would we put them in the company of a relative who supports the abuser to them! I just don't get it, also social services have warned us absolutely no contact as it is deemed unsafe for them to have a relationship with her. They don't want to anyway with the choices she's made. I just don't understand why she is staying with him? She makes me absolutely sick, he's the lowest of the low and has hurt her grand daughters so why would you not be repulsed by him? Why would you make an acceptance for him just because you been together 50 years? Her love for her son and grandkids was never real and it has destroyed her son completely. He turned to alcohol and still is to an extent and has sold all of his hifi to pay for it. He has nothing. We are selling our house next week to get out of the area as she lives less than half a mile from the house and we are surrounded by the rest of the paedophile supporters. I just can't believe it, we have nothing and I'm so frightened about the future. I have had breakdowns at work, feel depressed all of the time. I'm trying to keep it together for the kids but it's so bloody hard. We feel like our world is completely destroyed and I feel helpless the fact I can never take away what he has done to both of them for years.
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VLouise12 · 30/01/2022 20:53
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Lambchop1 ·
20/02/2023 03:32
fUNNYfACE36 · 20/02/2023 02:54
I am so so sorry for your daughter's x.it isn't your MILs fault though.
Calistan ·
20/02/2023 03:39
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