Hello,
I thought I'd post on here as I have found the site helpful when pregnant, and especially now I'm experiencing a miscarriage. I wanted to post to share my experiences of medical management as an inpatient (I'd been terrified of this and struggled to find many posts in my position prior to this) and to seek some advice regarding expected management.
We attended our 12 week scan last week to find out baby stopped growing at 9+1. We were both completely shocked as I'd had no worrying symptoms and believed things were progressing well. An internal scan confirmed it. We were asked to attend the EPU to discuss next steps. We sat with the manager who explained our 3 options - expectant management, medical management as an inpatient as it dated over 9 weeks, or surgical. My bloods were also taken. We also discussed disposal which was awful for us to think about but required. I think at this point I still didn't quite believe it was happening and that there had been some mistake. It was our first pregnancy and miscarriage, with no previous children.
We opted for medical management and two days later were admitted to a local ward. My husband was allowed to stay with me throughout and the staff were lovely. I had 4 tablets initially, then 2 tablets every 3 hours having 4 doses in total. I was so scared as I'd heard it could feel like labour pains. I felt some mounting abdo/back pain after the first dose, but things only intensified for me after the second. At that point I accepted codeine. Shortly after I felt a spurt of clear fluid and the bleeding began after. The pain was really uncomfortable but felt manageable and I knew I needed to do it. I'd recommend taking lots of thick sanitary pads with you. Overnight I passed lots of clots and also what we understood was our baby. This felt quite serene to do, not as scary to look at as expected and I think helped give us some closure (but each to their own decision). After the 4 doses the nurses wanted me to be reviewed by medics before further decisions could be made. After the last dose the bleeding slowed down a bit. I had an internal scan in hospital (which was unpleasant whilst bleeding but the staff was so compassionate of our situation throughout), which later confirmed some retained tissue.
I spoke with the doctors who advised we had the 3 options again - expectant management, further medical management and surgical. There were no guarantees any would fully work and a risk of infection is always there. We were fed up of being in hospital, felt surgery felt extreme for us and also didn't want to do medication when it hadn't worked fully last time. So we chose to come home and see if my body does what it needs to naturally. Things have really slowed down since coming home 3 days ago, my bleeding is like a light period, with some brief clots when I wee. I'm hoping my body might reabsorb the tissue naturally or dispose of it but we're just playing the waiting game. I need to ring the EPU today to let them know if we've changed our minds re:surgery. I think we will watch and wait, and if nothing else has passed in a week see if we can have a scan to establish next steps. Has anyone else been in this position? It just feels like my body isn't doing what it needs to do. Also happy to answer any questions about medical management.
Big thanks to all previous posters, it really helped me get my head around missed miscarriages in those early days.
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Missed miscarriage found at 12 week scan. Gestation dating 9w+1,followed by medical management and now expected management. Any other experiences of this?
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Katiehod · 23/08/2021 08:08
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