Miscarriage at 5.5 weeks, feel lost, what should I do?

[Lottiel28]

Hi all,

Sadly found out today I have suffered an early miscarriage at 5.5 weeks. I know it is early but I just feel so heartbroken. Me and husband had been trying for #1 for 2 years and this was our first round on Clomid and we finally got our BFP.

I started bleeding heavily in work this morning so left and went to our early pregnancy unit. They did a scan and confirmed miscarriage. I was heartbroken and only now just realised so many questions I didn’t ask when told this news. Since then bleeding has got heavier and I have bad cramping.

My questions are:

1. how long should I expect to bleed for? I read not to wear a tampon and just pads- is this correct?
   
2. I had my first midwife appointment next week, I will ring to cancel this now but should I get the GP to register the MC on my notes? The nurse at the EPU said they would inform the fertility clinic of this but that is separate from my GP.
   
3. how long did you have off before returning to work? I have a stressful job and feel bad leaving colleagues with extra workload but don’t feel I can go back tomorrow, I keep breaking down in flood of tears.
   
   Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks you! X

[JoJoSM2]

Hi. Just wanted to say sorry. Don’t know the details of managing miscarriage but I’d say to let your GP know as it’s good to have history of these things.

[pastabest]

I’m so sorry you are going through this.

The bleeding is different for different people i’m afraid so no one will be able to give you a definite answer. Hopefully with it still being relatively early it won’t be too long or too bad for you. I know that’s not much comfort.

When I had my miscarriage I rang the midwife to let them know and they cancelled everything else on my behalf like scans etc. I assume they also informed the GP as I can see it in my record but I didn’t inform them myself.

I miscarried on the Wednesday and was back in work on the Monday. In hindsight that was probably a day or two too soon at the time, but at the same time in the long run it probably helped me not dwell on it and get back to normal sooner than I would have done otherwise. Most employers will be understanding if you tell them why, but some people for obvious reasons don’t wish to disclose that they are trying to conceive.

In the meantime do whatever you can do to self care. Plenty of ibuprofen/ paracetamol if you are in pain. I drank nearly a whole bottle of damson gin, I don’t recommend that but if you feel a glass of wine/ hot bath/ a good cry to a shit film is what you want just do it.

And yes pads is about the only way forward at the moment.

[Kej13]

I'm so sorry for your loss :( I had an mmc at 12 weeks and it was devastating. Take as much time off as you need, I had a week and a half and for me I needed that time. I also have a stressful job and I never would have coped going back any sooner, if anything I could have done with a few more days.
Yes pads only, my bleeding lasted about 2 weeks but because I had a mmc I had medical management and a d&c so it could well be different.

The hospital notified my midwife but again I was a little further along so had my scan already.

Xx

[Lottiel28]

Thank you ladies! This really helps.
I have taken today off to rest as I’ve had no sleep and just feel too upset to go in. Will also call the GP later to inform them.

I have been using pads so far so will continue to do so, thank you.

I’m hoping now that my periods return to normal fairly quickly. x

[Kej13]

Mine was in July and I had my first period 2 weeks after mc bleeding stopped if that makes you feel any better? We've been ttc since but I think my cycle is longer now so haven't been getting the right days - just keep an eye on how long your cycle is now :) xxx

[kattekitt]

We've been ttc for 3+ years, I've never been through a mc, we've never come close to a bfp so I can't say I know how you feel. But I just wanted to send you hugs, just make sure you take the time you need, don't rush back to work too soon. From reading through the post there seems to be some really great advice. I'd also add a hot water bottle to help with any pain. Take care op

[Lottiel28]

Thank you Kej, that’s good to hear it returned quickly. I hope your cycles get shorter and you get your BFP soon!
Thank you katte, I will take it easy today and definitely take on the great advice given here. Hope you get your BFP soon!

Thanks all for the wonderful support xxx

[Unicornberry]

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks once, I miscarried naturally and it lasted about 6 days but the worst was over on the first day. I took it really badly, I had conceived on clomid too but it happened on a Friday so I stayed home with cramps and was working again on Monday. After the first day it was like a period and I had my next period 4 weeks later so it was as if there was no break in periods. sorry for your loss.

[Kej13]

Thank you @Lottiel28 I hope so too! I'm on my 2ww ATM which is horrible haha! I wish you all the luck in the world xx

[SpringWater1571]

Hi Lottie. I am so sorry for your loss. It's the most heartbreaking experience. I went through it about a month ago and have good and bad days. Tonight I have been crying over our loss and I feel like it's only just sinking in. I had a week off work and although it was hard going back the distraction was helpful. Take as long as you need though.

Look after yourself it is such a difficult time.

[Lottiel28]

I just wanted to say thank you all so much for your kind words and support. It has really meant a lot to me.
I’m starting to accept what’s happened now and allowing myself to feel sad but try to look for positives where I can. I just hope Clomid works again for us in the near future but this time it sticks. xx