Looking for a 'anonymous' egg donor

[user1488156527]

Hello,

My partner and i are looking for a anonymous egg donor to help us start our IVF. We are on a waiting list at Liverpool's Women's Hospital at the Hewitt Center, We have been advised that the best way to speed things up would be for us to go out and find our own donor as the waiting list is 4/5 years for us. We are both 27 years old, I had my ovaries removed when i was 15 years old and this is the only way we can start our little family.

We were wondering if there is anyone out there thinking of becoming an egg donor? If the answer is yes, then we would love to hear from you. If you are aged between 21 and 35 (and preferably already had children) and would like to receive more information regarding egg donation, Please phone the Ovum Donation Coordinator at Liverpool women's hospital on 0151 702 4212 and quoting the reference number "649R"

We are looking for a kind donor to help us out.

The egg donation coordinator has given us a unique code number so that anyone contacting them on our behalf is recognised in this way.
If you think you can help please call Liverpool Hewitt Fertility Centre on 0151 702 4212 and please quote the Reference Number "649R".

Thank you so much for reading this!

[Kimalexandra]

User1488 I have quoted your reference number Hun, mayby I will be suitable for you! Xxx

[Kimalexandra]

Hi I have rung up and quoted your reference number, I have a app on Monday for bloods! Hope this helps x

[user1488156527]

Hey everyone,

Sorry my laptop broke and I've had to reset everything.

Thank you all for the information. Does anyone have any other sites I can look for a donor. I'm still desperately seeking a donor.

Many Thanks
Xxx

[Persipan]

childmaintenanceserviceinquiry, I believe the OP here is seeking an egg donor who would be anonymous to her at this time, not one who wouldn't be identified to her potential child once they turn 18 (which, as you note, would not be possible in the UK under the law as it now stands). Anonymity at the point when donation is taking place is the norm (except in cases such as partner-to-partner egg-sharing, or a woman donating eggs to her sister, or the like) and acts as a protection for everyone involved. So, for example, I have basic non-identifying details of the egg-share donor I've been matched with, but she remains essentially anonymous to me at this point (and I to her) and will remain so - should I have a child, they'd be the one who could seek details later in life, since they'd be the one with the genetic connection.

I'm more than happy to discuss the topic of gamete donation further, but I'd ask that you think about how your phrase your comments - questioning people's 'morals and ethics' online rarely ends well, and as the parent of a donor-conceived child yourself, I'm sure you've faced judgement from others over your own decisions. I'm equally sure you made those decisions after careful consideration and with the welfare of your family in mind - so please don't think everyone here isn't doing the same.

[childmaintenanceserviceinquiry]

So how does this work now? My son is from an anonymous donor before the law changed in the UK in 2005. I thought after that date all IVF children in the UK had to be from donors that could be traced. It was considered to be in the best interests of the children as they grew into adulthood that they could, if they chose, trace their bio parent. Based on evidence from adopted and donor children. I was offered the chance of egg donors in Cyprus. Young women from the Ukraine or Russia who would sell their eggs. Personally I found that a Rubicon too hard to cross. I couldnt stomach being able to buy what I, as a rich western women, wanted from poor women who had little choice. Interesting to see how things have changed in a decade. How is the HFEA regulating any of this or do none of you care? As long as you get your child the morals and ethics dont matter. How do you ensure your birth child knows their origin?

[aurynne]

Blondeshavemorefun, there are no blood cells involved in an egg donor process. Please do not try to offer information which is highly technical and requires a basic knowledge of biology and chemistry if you have none of this knowledge or background. It confuses the OP and makes some posters believe your information is genuine.

[Persipan]

If a baby is rhesus positive and the mother is negative, treatment is given to prevent any issues with future pregnancies - but that's a common thing that happens in many pregnancies (since vanishingly few people choose their spouse/partner on the basis of whether they're rhesus positive/negative!) and has nothing to do with ABO type.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Guess I'm going by what the 3 told me who used de. But sorry if have wrong info

Would make more sense to have same blood group as sometimes the groups fight each other antibodies with the mum and dad and injection needed for 2nd child

Wouldn't it be kinda the same if 3 blood groups fligjtinf each other?

Just contemplating

[aurynne]

Parents may ask for a donor with the same blood group if they want their baby to have a blood group that would have been "possible" if they themselves had been the parents. Some parents choose not to tell their children they come from an egg donation process, so if they child had a blood group which couldn't have come from their recipient parents, he could find out.

For example, if both parents were O, and the egg donor was AB, the child could only be A or B, groups that could never have happened out of two O parents. So the child may find out on his own if he/she had not been told.

[aurynne]

Blondeshavemorefun sorry to contradict you, but blood group is completely irrelevant for egg donation.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

How strange. The three mums I've worked for who all had de all had same blood group as donor

Tho seems many clinics do things differently whether fet - 3/5 day transfer etc

[Persipan]

That's certainly not the case at my clinic. I'm matched and due to start synching my cycle with my donor's anytime now, and her blood type is completely different from mine.

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Yes they have to match

Donor and lady receiving

[user1488156527]

Sorry i didnt know that,so if AirBiscuitEater was to donate eggs to me then our blood groups have to match? My doctor never explained that to me.

Thank you so much for that update i had no idea.

xxx

[Blondeshavemorefun]

Unless you are donating esp for someone ie known

Then no blood group doesn't matter

But the lady getting the eggs must have the same group as the donor

So must match if you are going to be a donor for someone you choose iyswim

[user1488156527]

AirBiscuitEater Im really sorry i didnt see the blood type message, i didn't realize it went onto a second page haha!

I am actually blood type "O" Myself. When i had my results through it didnt say O- or O+

Mine just said O on the results.

But for Egg Donation they don't ask about that.

xxxx

[Haint]

I wish I'd known or thought more about this when I was younger. I'm too old now but would've done it, especially having seen friends and family struggle with infertility

Good luck to you OP, I hope you find a good egg to help you

[aurynne]

AirBiscuitEater blood group makes no difference for egg donation.

[user1488156527]

Oh wow that's amazing thank you so much for contacting me back. Yes please contact the clinic and see what they say and let me know if you need me to do anything at all xxx

[AirBiscuitEater]

Oh, also OP, does blood group affect the eligibility at all? I am O- so on the rare side. Not sure if it makes a difference...

[AirBiscuitEater]

Thank you user, that's great info.

I live close to Newcastle so travelling there shouldn't be an issue. Easy access to trains, coaches and planes!

My only concern is that my husband works away (3 weeks at home, 3 weeks away) so I am alone with DC's a lot, meaning childcare for those appointments may be an issue.

I may call the clinic and see what advice they offer.

Thanks again

[user1488156527]

What is Egg Donation?

Women around the world, experience a range of problems or limitations which mean that having a baby themselves is not possible, or perhaps not the best route for them to follow. Egg donation gives hope to these women. Women who may have gone through early menopause, been treated for chemotherapy or radiotherapy for cancer, or those who are looking to avoid passing on a genetic disorder to a child.

Your egg donation is highly valued by these women and here at The Hewitt Fertility Centre, we are delighted to welcome women looking to donate their eggs.
Who can donate their eggs?

Women 21-35 years

Women must meet the following minimum requirements in order to donate their eggs:

Donors should be healthy women aged 21-35 years
Free of any serious medical infection, disability, congenital, family or hereditary diseases
Not significantly overweight for their height
Non-smoker

Some birth defects (e.g. spina bifida, cleft palate, hare lip) and some serious diseases (e.g. diabetes, epilepsy, asthma and haemophilia) can be genetically linked, so it is not possible to accept donations from women where there is a family history of these conditions.
It is important to bear in mind that at the time of donation, the donation is anonymous. However, since April 2005, identifying information about donors is held on the HFEA Register and may be given to any child born from donation once they are 18 years old.

If you would like to donate your eggs, please complete our online 'apply to be a donor' form at the bottom of this page or our Ovum Donation Co-ordinator on 0151 702 4212.
How we perform Egg Donation

Step one: meeting the criteria

Before you can go through the egg donation process, it is important that you meet the criteria. Generally, women aged 21-35 with no serious medical conditions and who are not overweight meet the criteria. However, for more detailed requirements, please read the section; ‘Who can donate their eggs?’

We’ll also ask you to give us permission to contact your GP to allow us to ensure that there is no medical reason why you should not become an egg donor.

Step two: joining us in the centre

We will need some key information about you and therefore will ask you to fill out two forms and return them to us. After we receive these, we can arrange your first consultation with our trained specialists.

Our trained specialists will be able to tell you everything you can expect on your journey, including the procedures you will be undertaking. They will also assess your suitability to become an egg donor. Our team is there to help and if you have any questions at all, don’t hesitate to ask.

Step three: initial blood tests

The initial blood tests form part of your preliminary health check and are really important as they tell us crucial information – determining whether you can become a donor, as well as giving us additional information about your current reproductive health.

You will be tested for Anti-Mullerian Hormone (AMH) to determine your fertility level.
You may be using contraception and you do not need to stop your current method for fertility testing - we advise you not to stop with your contraception method until directed to do so.

Step four: genetic testing

Once we have assessed your fertility, there are some more tests that we can continue with. This includes genetic tests for Chromosome Analysis and Cystic Fibrosis, screening for certain transmissible viruses and a check of your blood group.

Step five: Counselling

At The Hewitt Fertility Centre, we work to ensure that the wellbeing of everyone using our services, is looked after; you are always welcome into our counselling facility. There, you can speak to expert, trained staff. If you have a partner or are married, it is important that you are together for your counselling sessions (which usually last around an hour).


Counselling sessions are your opportunity to talk to The Hewitt Fertility Centres qualified experts who can advise you and answer any questions you may have.

Step six: Your treatment

Once it is confirmed that your test results meet the requirements and you feel ready to proceed following counselling, we will start looking for the right recipient, and synchronise your cycle with hers.

Typically, the treatment cycle involves five visits to the centre – covering scans and instruction on administering the medication to stimulate your ovaries, leading to the egg collection.

We will retrieve your eggs vaginally and this usually happens under sedation.

[user1488156527]

AirBiscuitEater i think you would unfortunately. I'm really sorry about that, you must be based away from Liverpool. I'm not sure how it works about the expenses. I don't know if the clinic pays or i pay for the traveling expenses. Im really knew to this myself and i dont know every detail just yet sorry.

www.thehewittfertilitycentre.org.uk/how-can-we-help-you/i-would-like-to-become-a-donor/egg-donor/

AirBiscuitEater the above link is the link for some information about the clinic i am with in Liverpool. The Hewitt Centre, If you need any more information please don't hesitate to ask me and no question is a silly Question.

Thank you so much for looking into this, and if you do decide to contact my clinic, Please phone the Ovum Donation Coordinator at Liverpool women's hospital on 0151 702 4212 and quoting the reference number "649R" This is my unique code.

Thank you again xxxx

[AirBiscuitEater]

Thank you for the very helpful info everyone.

OP, would donating for you mean travelling to Liverpool? Sorry if silly question!

[user1488156527]

CaulkheadNorth Yes this is still the case as far as i know because my sister was denied for certain illness she carries.

Thank you so much for offering.

xxx