I just can’t believe what I’m reading. The idea that it’s the birthday party invitation up for debate here and not the act of surrogacy shows how fecking wonky the world has gotten about these things. A few people in the comments arguing that surrogacy is wrong but it’s generally met with “SIL went into it willingly”. Most people actually just answering the question at hand.
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Surrogacy thread on Reddit has boiled my blood
User6gh · 01/12/2022 02:30
Rockingcloggs · 02/12/2022 10:44
So, egg share is where you are anonymously 'matched' with a recipient ie a woman who for whatever reason cannot use her own eggs. You agree that the eggs that are collected after will be shared evenly between the recipient and yourself. Should no eggs be collected you have the option of another 'free' cycle, if a low number of eggs are collected you have options of either giving them all to your recipient or keeping them for yourself. At any point during the cycle you can change your mind.
Yes, egg sharing does reduce the costs for the woman 'sharing' her eggs, it is a benefit when you know that it is unlikely you will have a positive cycle on the first go.
My first cycle resulted in 14 eggs - so 7 each and a BFN for me, the second cycle resulted in 19, so 10 for me and 9 for my recipient. Again BFN for me but BFP for her!
It didn't actually reduce the cost that much for us because I have a lot of immune issues so the treatment for those were added onto the cost of a reduced IVF fees. I had 6 cycles altogether but only the first two were egg share cycles.
I am happy with my decision and I am also very proud that I helped a woman become a mother when otherwise she may not have been able to do so. There was absolutely no coercion.
Helleofabore · 02/12/2022 10:35
Rockingcloggs
When you say you ‘egg shared’, do you mean your eggs were harvested for your own use and your donated to someone else?
If so, did you get a discount on your own treatment?
Helleofabore · 02/12/2022 10:35
Rockingcloggs
When you say you ‘egg shared’, do you mean your eggs were harvested for your own use and your donated to someone else?
If so, did you get a discount on your own treatment?
User6gh · 01/12/2022 19:11
A friend of mine could get a discount on IVF if she donated eggs… in the UK. I never considered how coercive it was. (She didn’t do it.)
MintyFreshOne · 01/12/2022 16:20
information now coming out about the increased risk to any woman carrying a child that is not her own
Source? Genuinely interested
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