My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year and up until recently he has been managing at home with us and some home help (not carers - befrienders that do a bit of cleaning, make lunch and remind for meds).
However over the last couple of months things keep happening that have ended up with police involvement (accusing people of stealing, going to an old friend's house and making a scene).
He is blissfully unaware of his diagnosis and to him everyone else is in the wrong.
He is adamant there is nothing wrong with him and he is doing just fine. He gets angry if it is suggested otherwise.
It is getting a bit much for us to cope with and today I got a message from the aforementioned old friend who said the next time he comes round he will call the police and have him arrested.
Police are aware of him and have a form thing which means they contact us. Which they do, at 3am because my dad has zero sense of time nowadays.
Plus dad is always losing his keys which means I have to go round there and sort him out. At least once a week - always late at night because he is a heavy drinker and goes to the pub all evening (never forgets that).
I am exhausted. I have an ASD son who has me up in the night too. For my own sake he needs to go into a home.
I have no idea where to start. SS couldn't be less interested because me and my sister pick up the pieces.
I should also add he basically never showers, sleeps in his clothes, doesn't eat anything unless handed to him and drinks every day.
What do I do? We have LPAs (both).
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Dementiadad · 13/03/2023 16:29
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