Try to get to the point of the question… you’re 41, wanted kids your whole life (apparently). Have planned them with your partner for a years time but unexpectedly fall pregnant after using condoms.
His initial reaction was positive but he became distant, cold, drank more than usual. I rowed with him about this a lot, swore shouted told him I’d speak to his work/police if he didn’t stop being unkind and didn’t stop drinking so much (NOT my finest reaction I know). He ended up being charged with drink driving, we rowed more because I mentioned reporting him if he didn’t stop (I’d never have done this I was just worried and wanted him to wake up). He cut me off, literally, stopped communicating and from what I can see has got all sorts of restrictions on job because of the drinking charge (works for nhs) and will be in meltdown because he is on contract work so it’s coming up for renewal. I’ve text to say I’m sorry for being upset and getting angry at him, said life is too short let’s speak even for the sake of the baby. It’s been weeks and weeks now and he ignores it all. I’m struggling as I get towards the birth and don’t understand how he can be so unkind. From a man’s perspective would you leave him to it? I am worried he will forget about the baby entirely if I don’t keep in contact. He never seemed the sort of person to abandon his child but he seems to be heading that way?
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Juenalp · 06/08/2022 07:31
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