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What am I supposed to do?

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blvdbrokendreams · 13/11/2020 19:45

My husband and me have both come down with a cough. And hes got a bit of a temperature so we've arranged to get two tests done tomorrow.. the problem is we have a 3 month old baby and we are running very low on formula. I got paid today so the plan was to nip to asda or tesco like we usually do on payday and top up. Obviously we may not have covid but we are trying to follow the guidance. We have no immediate family in the area and no friends who drive or live this way. No delivery slots at any of the supermarkets. Looked on deliveroo and ubereats and for starters the delivery fee is at least 4 pound, I know its not a lot but when your husband is furloughed again and im on maternity every penny counts but also the milk is an extra four pound. Its 8 pound for cow and gate in the supermarket, 12 pound on the deliveroo supermarkets. Im not here to complain and im not here to start a debate. I just dont know what to do. Me and my husband have food in. But my little girl has hardly any. Please don't slate me for running low on milk. Were leaving payday to payday as it is.

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Twistered · 15/11/2020 22:47

Oh that's great OP

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november90 · 15/11/2020 20:58

@AllAussieAdventures completely agree! ❤️

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AllAussieAdventures · 15/11/2020 20:32

You are on a hiding to nothing if you think your average woman is going to prioritise anything/anyone over feeding her baby.

My children get fed. That is a non negotiable position. I will do what I have to and risk what I have to to make that happen. All other concerns fall away.

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Orchidflower1 · 15/11/2020 20:18

@blvdbrokendreams 🙌🏻 Glad everyone got a negative test. Good luck to your dh with the job hunt. Flowers

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HeronLanyon · 15/11/2020 15:44

Grin good result op. And you’re well stocked with formula anyway. Hide one tin away if you can afford ? Bet you’d hesitate to come back here for advice Grin

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blvdbrokendreams · 15/11/2020 15:39

Just an update, our results came back this morning and we are both negative.

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Sb2012 · 14/11/2020 21:38

Hope you are feeling ok OP and hope you get a negative test result
Hopefully it is negative this time, but think what if you do get the virus in the next few weeks. You need to have some plan in place so you don’t end up in this situation again where your baby has no milk left and you are too ill or contagious to go and get some.
My colleague had a baby a few months ago too. She stocked up a little on milk and essentials before hand in preparation as she knew maternity pay doesn’t last forever and there’s a chance her DH could be furloughed.

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Cheeeeislifenow · 14/11/2020 21:11

Some people on her.. fucksake your priveledge is showing. You have clearly never been in this position, where literally every cent counts. I have op and I would have done the same. The risk was minimal. Absolutely minimal.

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DobbyTheHouseElk · 14/11/2020 21:10

I can’t believe what I’m reading.

OP I’d have done the same as you. You had your mask on and kept your distance, your baby has to have milk.

FFS, this place has gone mad.

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november90 · 14/11/2020 21:06

@blvdbrokendreams I hope you get your results soon so you can move onwards!
I actually couldn't read the whole thread as the comments to you were really bothering me so I just felt like I had to say something 🙈 You definitely don't have to explain yourself to a bunch of judgemental strangers who haven't been in your shoes!
Oh and I would've gone to the shop too. If my baby needed something urgently and I had no source of help of course I would, and I can bet you that the posters on this thread would too....!!

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KylieKoKo · 14/11/2020 21:04

I hope that none of the people who think the op was wrong to get food for her baby are parents! Of course it was the right thing to do. Her baby was hungry.

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Twistered · 14/11/2020 21:01

One minute I'm like do what you have to do i would do the same, the next minute I'm like get the hazemet suit on you could kill people
This pandemic and Mumsnet is messing with my head and my normal thinking!!!!! Angry
Maybe that's why we are all being a bit vipery at the minute on MN. Our heads are all over the place
Flowers for all of us

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Shitfuckoh · 14/11/2020 21:00

OP, I've followed the rules all the way through this madness. I've stuck to the 'rules' even when they've changed massively - I'm in the NE where first we were told no contact with other households, even for informal childcare. Then informal childcare was allowed. Then we could meet outdoors (not gardens) legally, it was just 'advised' against. Then it changed to we could meet up in gardens. Then of course lockdown 2. I stuck to the original not in gardens part prior to lockdown.

I isolated with my 3 year old when he had contact with a positive case & kept my other DC home, as we couldn't socially distance.

I'd have still gone to the store for baby formula like you did, if my circumstances were the same as yours. We're past the stage of formula now thank goodness. The point of my reply is, whilst I haven't been in your situation, I can understand why you did what you did.

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blvdbrokendreams · 14/11/2020 20:59

@november90 thank you for your kind comment. Me and family are OK. Waiting for rest results. Wish I'd just gone out and grabbed milk and not said anything now 😒 🙄

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november90 · 14/11/2020 20:56

I actually cannot believe some (most) of the comments in this thread, they really are completely ridiculous, intrusive and bullyish!!
OP I really hope you and your family are ok. Please ignore the ignorant comments here, it says SO much more about them then it ever will you. How people think they have the right to pick at you like they have just because you've asked for some right is beyond me!
How are you feeling? Hope you are all ok and feeling better and glad you got sorted.

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Twistered · 14/11/2020 20:53

Trusttgegenie......I've said even though it's not really ok I just might have done the same thing tbh. The whole situation is screwed up. None of us can do right from wrong sure

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Bollss · 14/11/2020 20:48

@Twistered

Actually I've reread and completely changed my mind. Op you did have another option but didn't want to spend the £4 or £8. That makes me feel it was wrong to nip into a shop for the sake of that money no matter how tight you are finding things. My teenager works in retail and could be exposed if everyone with symptoms did this. She could potentially kill off her granda and a younger vulnerable family member for the sake of you saving £4 or £8
Still it's done now and you were careful so probably no harm done hopefully

So you're saying op should have spent £16 - literally double - on baby formula and then struggled next week? You're saying you don't want op to feel bad then why are you saying that because it serves literally no other purpose?

I cannot believe people are saying someone who is obviously struggling a bit should spend DOUBLE on baby formula even though she didn't go near anyone and most importantly might not even have Corona!

Empathy has firmly got up and fucked off our of Mumsnet recently
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Twistered · 14/11/2020 20:42

Things are awful at the minute I know op. Tbh even though I don't really think it's ok what you did, I probably would have done the exact same Shock

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blvdbrokendreams · 14/11/2020 20:39

@Twistered yeah I did by using money for bills and hoping I can get it back in the bank. It would be 16 pound for one tub of formula and delivery. The tubs are 8 pound each in the big supermarkets.

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Twistered · 14/11/2020 20:31

You did have it as you stocked up 2 weeks now.
Anyway I don't want to go on about it or make you feel bad. Hope all is ok with tests and baby x

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blvdbrokendreams · 14/11/2020 20:28

@Twistered didn't want to spend it? How about didnt have it? 4 pound delivery plus 4 pound on the regular price of milk is 8 pound. That's the cost of another tin of formula. I am living payday to payday at the moment.

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purringpaws · 14/11/2020 20:26

OP you sound really sensible and you did what you had to for your baby. Glad some family have also added some support.

You've come across really well on this thread, really articulate.

Ignore the arseholes here.

Hope you get negative results and can get on with things.

Take care Thanks

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Twistered · 14/11/2020 20:23

Actually I've reread and completely changed my mind. Op you did have another option but didn't want to spend the £4 or £8. That makes me feel it was wrong to nip into a shop for the sake of that money no matter how tight you are finding things. My teenager works in retail and could be exposed if everyone with symptoms did this. She could potentially kill off her granda and a younger vulnerable family member for the sake of you saving £4 or £8
Still it's done now and you were careful so probably no harm done hopefully

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Twistered · 14/11/2020 20:13

You did what you had to do OP and were as careful as you could possibly be

Can't believe some of the responses you're getting and having to justify your money, your shopping routine and even having a dog! Well actually it's Mumsnet so I can believe it Grin

Hope is well with you OP CakeBrewFlowers

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VicSynix · 14/11/2020 20:05

The OP was posting at 7.45 on Friday night. The Council support line probably wasn't open, her Doctor's surgery would have been shut, and I'd be amazed if her local community support group would have been able to help at that time of day. I help run one of these, supporting people with Covid or who are shielding, and there are bloody few people I could call on at that time of the evening to drop everything and rush to the shops. Our support group has far, far less volunteers than last lockdown as most people are back at work so we are really limited in what we can do and who we can help.

I think the OP did the only thing she could in those circumstances.

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