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What is the likelihood this wedding will go ahead???? Guilt....

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bridalpanics · 18/03/2020 16:53

Hi. My son is getting married in a month's time. The thought of the wedding day has been causing me and my other child so much stress (pre the Coronavirus situation). This is because my ex-husband and father of my children will be present. He was violent (+++) to me when we were married and tried to kill me. He attempted to abduct my daughter when she was younger (she's now an adult). We are both in therapy and have moved on with our lives and I'm happily remarried but the thought of spending the day with my ex feels horrific to me. I have tried to put my feelings aside as my son idolises his father but it feels overwhelming and frightening.

Now, with the Coronavirus, how likely is it that this wedding will go ahead do you think? There will be a way over 150 guests, some elderly, some coming from abroad, some pregnant..... I think it won't be a good idea to go because of social distancing but I'm well aware that I really don't want to go so my judgment is skewed to say the least!

Any objective thoughts from you would be gratefully received. I want to stay safe; physically and emotionally, but also be a good mum.

Thank you in advance Smile

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bridalpanics · 18/03/2020 17:07

Thank you. I'm actually crying with how kind you are all being. In my DS's defence, he is psychologically far more damaged than he realises x

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GrumpyHoonMain · 18/03/2020 17:02

I wouldn’t go. Your DS doesn’t deserve you

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bridalpanics · 18/03/2020 17:01

Thank you everyone. Yes I know the problem may return but I guess I'm clutching at straws. They won't consider cancelling and have their heads in the sand at present. It may we'll be taken out of their hands soon!! 🙏🏼

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bridalpanics · 18/03/2020 16:59

Yes my son knows and witnessed some of it. He just thinks it's all in the past and therefore it doesn't matter. It might take him years to face up to what a monster his father is as he's totally brainwashed. That's the most upsetting thing about the wedding. He has his father and his new wife on the top table and me and my husband are on a separate table so as not to cause a scene.

Thank you for that Smile

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ZombieFan · 18/03/2020 16:59

Surely gatherings have been advised against. They should be cancelling the whole thing. Hopefully they have insurance. The whole place will be flooded with the virus, close contact, hugs, kisses crying, transmission.

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LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 18/03/2020 16:56

Advice is no weddings.

However the problem will come back at some point.

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Seventyone72seventy3 · 18/03/2020 16:55

I think it is unlikely but also why would your son put you in this position? Does he know what happened?

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