brief background: recently recruited nanny/mothers help to work alongside me at home and to take occasional sole charge of ds1 (2yo)
she is studying for an nvq3 in childcare for which i release her a day or so a fortnight (to attend college). her college assessor sometimes comes here to discuss progress and observe our nanny working - i've always been happy for this to happen as it's important for her to get her qualifications (for her, not really important for us)
her college assessor has bugged me a bit with what i see as inappropriate behaviour/attitude - e.g. insisting on seeing evidence that our nanny is covered insurance-wise when working here (her work here has feck all to do with her college course). she was clearly unhappy that we had had to rearrange today's session as my friends couldn't make the first date
today she arrived to observe nanny supervising 3 children (so i had arranged for friends to bring their dc around)
she arrived first and i heard her giving our nanny a hard time. nanny in tears. assessor carrying on regardless
my friends arrived, so i intervened to ask if nanny's (i wish there were a MN abbreviation of nanny - DN perhaps?) assessor would continue this another time as i didn't appreciate DN () being upset and didn't want my friends to be uncomfortable with the obvious atmosphere
to cut a longish story shortish, assessor not happy (affronted?), nanny not happy (bullied, imo) and tutter not happy (all kicking off Chez Tutter and feeling protective of DN)
assessor decides to leave. i caught her outside to say i wasn't happy with the demands she was making on me (esp with a newborn) on arranging these sessions and e.g. seeing insurance details, fire extinguishers, first sid kit etc. asked her if maybe she was unclear about the relationship (or lack of it) between the colege and me as an employer
assessor then tells me that i have a legal requirement to provide such evidenec to the college!
(have established with nanny agency that this is of courtse bolleaux)
when i explained that i am helping DN out - doing her a favour if you like - by helping her ger her qualification, she said "i'm doing you a favour by coming here to assess DN!
upshot is that DN now planning to quit course. i have suggested thta if she feels her r'ship with her assessor has broken down irrevocably, that she should ask to switch assessors
am feeling a bit bad that i got involved, but i couldn't bear to hear her being spoken to that way, and i was frankly hacked off at being nagged by someone i have no obligation to whatsoever
opinions? advice?
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Tutter · 26/09/2007 20:03
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