Tiptoes quietly into the corner...

[Typecast]

HAHAHAHA ONLY JOKING!!

TA-DA!!!! I'M FINALLY HERE after much moaning on Twitter and a lost application, Mumsnet have fast-tracked my application and I'm now officially a "Mumsnet Blogger". What have I let myself in for??

Some of you may already know me, in which case "Hi" - make yourselves known.
Some of you may never have heard of me, in which case "Hi" - where the frig have you been for the past two years?
Some of you may know me from a previous life where I had a different username, in which case "Hi" - and sssshhhh we don't talk about that any more.
Some of you may know me in real life, in which case "Hi" - isn't it time you rang me and we arranged a coffee date?
Some of you have probably clicked off by now and though "weirdo", in which case "Bye".

I have been described as Tigger, Quirky and The Queen of Rants. I blog at Typecast

[HelenMumsnet]

Okay, it's actually so confusing, I'm confused now

It turns out you DON'T have to join Mumsnet when you apply to join the Mumsnet Bloggers Network - but you do have to join if you want to post in the Bloggers forum (or anywhere else on Mumsnet Talk).

Apologies for the misinformation - all my fault. DarrenMumsnet had just handed me the MNHQ Dunce Cap and I'm off to sit in the corner till I'm properly sorry.

[BecauseImWorthIt]

at HelenMumsnet

20Something, with respect (genuinely) I think you need to have a look at your own posts.

[TheRealMBJ]

Don't worry 20something, I'm sure we can manage that.

[DirtyMartini]

20something, you came here to stir up trouble, in the guise of avenging a so-called "attack" that was in fact more of a molehill than a mountain.

When you descend on a forum specifically with intent "to mock", you kind of lose the moral high ground, I'm afraid.

To then start advising MNHQ on how to run their site ... well. I don't quite know what to say about that.

[purplepidjin]

Thanks, Helen, it's all so very very new (and exciting)

To be fair to 20something, I have also reported posts - specifically those referring to someone (I thinkg the OP) by what appears to be a real life name. Granted, I'm not on every single forum in the world but I do know that using real names is generally frowned upon!

I also enquired of MN in my reports whether the behaviour was "trolling" or not. I don't think I'm capable or qualified to judge that.

[DouglasPouch]

Sorry 20something, But I am PMSL at your latest post-

"20somethingmumuk, better known than any of you bi-ayt-ches"

Seriously are you still at primary school ? .

[DillyTante]

I've been off scoffing cake at a party. You lot still rucking? I've yet to be told what I am supposed to be jealous of? Anyway, I think it's envy we're being pedantic...

[ellenheaney]

Blimey

I've never posted on here before despite having been a member for years, but this has shocked me into posting. I don't think I know any of you but this post is doing the rounds on fb / twitter as a shocker (as rude as that awful future MIL email).

I am horrified at how the 'established' MN community welcomes a newcomer. For Pete's sake if you don't like the tone of a persons post just don't reply. Nowhere does it imply typecast is a fantastic blogger or that she's going to show you how to do it. It simply is a friendly vibrant way of joining a community which I am sure she would not want to join anymore.

[Typecast]

Returning once again to again assure you that I am no troll. Any of the new followers on Twitter or the blog can vouch for that. I'm still very disappointed in the behaviour of some members here but I have exchanged a few emails with Justine Roberts and I am satisfied with how our conversation ended.

I shall reiterate the fact that I asked no-one to come here and defend me or use RL names and also the fact that however you decide to read my posts, not once was I offensive or judgmental. Lest can be said of some members.

I've had plenty of messages from people singing the praises of MN but who are still openly shocked at how this thread panned out. I shall leave it there. I'll still be about on the forums but only here on the Blogger Network. If you don't like what I have to say then you don't actually have to put finger to keyboard, do you?

[BecauseImWorthIt]

Why not post elsewhere, though? Mumsnet is a fantastic place, and it's worth getting to know it better.

This hasn't been a great experience or first impression, so have a better look around. You never know, you might actually like us it here!

And genuinely, welcome to Mumsnet.

[DillyTante]

'I actually joined to offer some help around these parts.' is what she said. She could have said 'I joined in to exchange ideas and see what each other is doing.'

Is this really doing the rounds? The Eurozone and US economy are about to fall down around our ears. Norway has been the subject of a terrorist attack, killing dozens of young people. Our politicians, media and police forces are up to their neck in cronyism and corruption. Have you guys really got nothing better to tweet about

[BecauseImWorthIt]

The thing is, Typecast, you obviously didn't set out to be offensive, but your OP and tone was found offensive by some.

[MmeLindor]

Well said, BIWI. I hope you do stay and see what the rest of the site is like. We can always do with more feisty funny women. Welcome.

[DirtyMartini]

Got any chicken puns, Typecast? (Not meant as a challenge - I have still contributed no chicken puns)

Welcome and here's hoping things improve. I agree you should consider not restricting yourself to this little bit of MN, but it's up to you of course.

[MigratingCoconuts]

typecast seems to be here for very genuine reasons and we welcome that, I am sure. The start was shakey to say the least and some people got far too offended but I hope that it becomes more positive.

20something has brought nothing positive whatsoever. I hope she can stand back and take stock. She seems to have allowed herself to become sucked into a very negative type of posting. I didn't visit her blog and have no idea of the attacks she mentions but I have found her abusive tone the most offensive thing in this thread, demonstrating a complete lack of knowledge about MN and a complete lack of interest in finding out all the great stuff that goes on here. Her only intent seems to try and wind people up, which seems like a real waste of energy...life really is too short.

[20SomethingmumUK]

Migrating Coconuts
Nope actually I know MN of old- with the same name before anyone jumps down my throat again. I've experienced plenty of MN abuse before, simply for asking a question on the site. MN is not in my experience, and plenty of others who have contacted me, a friendly nor supportive network.

I've even had people accuse me as if its out of order of not being of native tongue. Last time I checked I was born here, have a good understanding of English etc etc. The catty remarks towards myself and others are worse actually than me pointing out the ridiculous, childish and catty behaviour of people here. Even to go as far as to mock my grammar, yet say if I was an "accepted" member of the forums I would be "allowed" grammatical errors- how pompous and cliquey does that sound?

You know what, blame me all you like- seems from experience thats what gangs of nasty individuals will do, scapegoat others not at fault. Yes, I did call you out, I did take the pee a bit, and? For people happy to use the C word freely, a bit of mockery is a minor I'd have imagined? But then again, one rule for Mumsnet "established members" different rules for people who manage without it.

Anyway, you're boring me, my 4 year old makes a better argument than some of you do.

[BecauseImWorthIt]

But a search of your name reveals only this thread! I checked because I was interested to see where/how you'd experienced such abuse before.

There is no one rule for one and one rule for another on Mumsnet. Honestly.

But you obviously aren't interested in anything conciliatory, are you? (And I have tried, on Twitter, to encourage you into Mumsnet a bit more).

Which is a shame and, I think, probably your loss actually.

[DouglasPouch]

If it wasn't friendly or supportive then why are complete strangers making blankets for bereaved members of MN? People they may have never met or talked to before, yet put love and friendship into a small square of material to let the person know they are not alone.

Take a look at the christmas appeal thread, take a look at threads where people are sending groceries or other needed items when people are in a tough spot.

MN has been and continues to be a massive support to many many people, and threads like this are quite rare.

You came here for a ruck and you got one back, no point in throwing your toys out of the pram now.

[purplepidjin]

"if I was an "accepted" member of the forums I would be "allowed" grammatical errors"

Actually, you've completely missed the point I made twice. I'll try again...

A poster on an internet forum has their spelling, grammatical and punctuation errors overlooked (except by irritating pedants who actually have their own section of this site so they can chat among themselves).

A person who claims to have won awards for their writing should not then make those mistakes.

Where you were born and your native tongue bear no relevance to this discussion. You state that you have a higher than average standard of written English, yet the evidence on this thread shows otherwise. Sudo? I mean, really?? I though that was a Japanese logic puzzle...

You have been behaving like an arse. And, on here as on other forums I've used, if you act like an arse, you get treated like one. Many people have given you an opportunity to demonstrate that this is simply your behaviour in this one particular situation...

From the Talk Guidelines "We'd appreciate it if you'd use the same courtesy when posting messages on Talk as you would use when speaking to someone face-to-face."

When I posted the C word, it was crossed out and I did so as a jibe at Typecast's accusation that I was using strikeouts to make bitter and remarks. Strikeouts are the internet equivalent of muttering under your breath. That post was removed, and I probably should have watched my language somewhat so that i stayed within the rules (I have now refreshed my memory) however, because that post is no longer visible speculation has become rife and it has been assumed by most that I did something which in real life would equate to walking up to a stranger and shouting "cunt" in their face

[Typecast]

"The thing is, Typecast, you obviously didn't set out to be offensive, but your OP and tone was found offensive by some."

But I didn't descend into childish bullying and intimidation tactics, did I? As I've said - I'll stick around for the time being but I'm sure there will be many people waiting in the wings to jump on every single thing I say.

"Got any chicken puns, Typecast? (Not meant as a challenge - I have still contributed no chicken puns)"

Only clucking awful ones.

"We can always do with more feisty funny women. Welcome."

Thanks. I was categorically told at the beginning of this thread that I was unfunny. Probably based on my OP and possibly a quick glance at the blog (which has no funny posts on the front page).

[DirtyMartini]

D'you know what though ... I know you know this, but it seems worth mentioning: we are not one big hive mind. What one person says, or even what a few people say, can't be extrapolated into what everyone on MN thinks.

I don't know if you're funny or not, tbh, but I'm not automatically deciding you are unfunny based on what one other poster said.

I'm glad that you and MNHQ have sorted stuff out. I hope that you won't find people waiting to jump - anyone who keeps on harking back to this on other threads will probably find that they, not you, get criticized for it by other posters.

[DouglasPouch]

Yes it's very bad form to drag a ruck on one thread to another.
I didn't actually have a problem with Typecast, it was when 20something came on to dazzle us all with her "Don't you know who I am?" post.

She is calling us bullies, yet has no problem with namecalling herself.

[YaMaYaMa]

20whatever has put me off even looking at OP's blog, never mind her own

[TheRealMBJ]

Martini I like that explanation. I always feel a little affronted when the media refer to MNetters in terms reminiscent of the Borg. We do not care to assimilate anyone, not want to be assimilated.

Typecast I'm glad to see you're sticking around. Hopefully by spending some more time here you'll be able to see why some of us love it so much in here.

[SueSlyHESTER]

This is all over the internet. On numerous forums and in the long run I doubt it is doing MN or the members any harm. I think for the most part they come across as sensible people.
The OP was a bolshy ,I agree but I think it could've been taken as playful, although I understand why it wasn't.

What I must add is the that I have seen the loudest shouter in all of this involved in numerous other must-read forum, blog and twitter fallouts over the last couple of years. Rarely the source of the argument but leaping in to "defend" and making it far worse. Then making it about her.

Can I stick around and join in? I promise not to be too jazz handy.