My MIL has been ill for about 10 years with COPD. She's been in and out of hospital, has been in intensive care several times and we've been prepared on a few occasions for her to go.
Before xmas she was diagnosed with lung cancer, she had flu over the xmas period and we thought that she would go then - she was really ill.
Since then she picked up (btw she has been adamant all along that she wants to stay at home) and has been 'well' (for her) but she has been losing a lot of weight and getting frailer. Over the past 2 weeks she has gone down hill. She had a scan 2 weeks ago which indicated that the tumor in her lungs has grown and all of a sudden decided to go on holiday with FIL to cornwall. They came back after 2 days 'cos she was ill (vomiting) since then things have deteriorated.
This past week she's been confused, her O2 sats have been at 70% and on friday night she was so confused and scared that she was ringing around the family to have people with her (FIL useless) Yesterday morning she said that she wanted peace and to go into the hospice (the local hospice are involved and visited her after xmas) however, she needs a GP referral to go into the hospice and her GP is not available until tuesday.
A locum/OOH Dr prescribed diazepam over the phone yesterday to take the edge off the terror/anxiety and my DP and his aunt are providing round the clock care at the moment.
Today she is alert/out of bed a bit...she's not eating/drinking though and veers from manic activity to being terrified. And she's obsessed with sorting out her kitchen (eg buying new white goods etc...we are just going with this and doing emergency runs to comet)
What can we expect? Is it likely that at this stage palliative care/hospice support will kick in? We think that she is now 'dying' she's changed over the past week. We just do not know what to do. However, DP's sister (who is on hols at the moment and hasn't seen her mum for a week or so) thinks that it's just another infection and that all will be well.
Are we over reacting in pushing for palliative/hospice support? We just do not know what to do, what to expect. She is indomitable and has fought and fought against her illnesses for the past 10 years, but IMHO this week she has given up.
Again apologies if this is in the wrong forum, but I couldn't find anywhere else for this, and I am just gutted by it all really. My poor DP and his poor mum.
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alistron1 · 17/07/2011 18:25
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