I'm worried about 6yo DD.
DD has always been a very serious child and prefers the company of adults to children.
She has certain behaviours that I thought she'd have grown out of by now and is developing some new behaviour and, with her being my first child I'm not sure whether they're age appropriate. They all sound silly individually, but I'm worried about how it may progress as she gets older.
Please be kind - I'm quite sensitive about this topic.
- She's really funny about her feet. If the sock line is slightly off or the material is uncomfortable she freaks out about it and ends out crying her eyes out. There's only a couple of pairs of tights - soft, ballet-type tights that she wears without complaint. Same with shoes.
- She's quite serious and doesn't engage with the more 'silly' games that seem common and fun amongst her peers.
- She tolerates other children well and will include them in her games if they approach her but she won't seek out children to play with. She will often be playing by herself in the playground.
- There are lots of kids that she likes at school and that like her (no shortage of party invites etc.), but she doesn't seem to have a consistant group of friends yet which seems in contrast to her peers.
5)She's very in to routine and gets distressed when the usual routine changes. E.g We usually eat A on a Tuesday, but this week I had to change this and tears ensued.
6)She hates anything 'new', for example this week she was due to start a new after school club and, although she'd asked to go she started getting anxious about it and was complaining about abdo pain to her teacher all afternoon. When she got there, she loved it.
- She complains of physical symptoms when she's worried about something, headache, abdo pain, nausea. Sometimes she's sick and sometimes she hyperventilates. This is usually due to having to try something new, especially if I can't stay. But can be, for example due to having to wear trousers instead of a dress for school, when she was expecting to wear a dress.
- She's doing well academically but is a perfectionist and if her work isn't quite right she gets quite frustrated and has been known to screw up her work in anger.
- She's very self-conscious about her work and hates to show it in groups.
- She struggles with creativity. E.g she builds quite complex lego models by following the instructions, but won't put anything together herself. Same with cross stitch. She has beautiful handwriting, but struggles to think of anything to write.
In contrast to the above, she plays beautifully with her 3yo DS - role play games mostly, but as though she's older. So she'll let her sister win, or praise her sisters drawing even if she thinks it's rubbish.
She's usually quite well behaved.
She's doing well academically at school - above age related expectations in all areas.
School are doing some social group work with her in afternoons to help her to build friendships and have given her a written schedule each day so she knows the routine.
So, if you got through all that. Do you think this sounds 'normal' for a 6yo DD? Do you think she's just a 'drama queen' about the socks/routine etc. I have anxiety issues and I'm worried she's following in my footsteps.