Having a really off day :(

[shaaan1329]

I'm struggling over here and just need a vent I think😔

My ex partner left me when I was 8 weeks pregnant, I'm now 25 weeks and struggling to come to terms with his behaviour towards me. Since we broke up he's had the attitude 'I don't want you but nobody else can have you' an continued to be his possessive self. He wants to know who I'm talking to etc and wants to come to my house for sex and 'cuddles' but won't commit to me despite me carrying his child. He used to be a big drug user and has got back into taking speed which doesn't help the situation.

Now I'm starting to show a bit more and look pregnant, going home to an empty house is losing its appeal. I long for the family unit and still have hope he will come around to the idea of us when baby arrives even though I know he's not the best for me.

Has anyone been in this situation who can offer any advice? I am meant to take citalopram for depression but weaned myself off it when I found out I was pregnant.

[Fruitcorner123]

You poor poor thing i really would speak to your GP and midwife about the medication. When you have the baby the baby blues will probably hit and if you have a history of depression you are more at risk from postnatal depression so getting something in place now will help you feel more in control. Weaning yourself off anti depressants carries risks in itself so please do get advice from them asap.

Do you have a good support network if friends and family?

Your partner sounds like an idiot but I can totally understand why you still hope he will see sense. It does sound like you are better off without him though it may just take some time for you to see it that way.

[dede124]

He sounds like a complete idiot and you and your baby will be better off with out him. I can only imagine how lonely and scared you are feeling but you will be okay and you will cope.

Please don't let this man keep walking in and out as he pleases your not doing yourself any favours by allowing him to play with your emotions.

I would speak to your midwife about your medication... you don't need to suffer. I used to take citrolapram before I fell pregnant and I weened myself off because I didn't want to take anything but then I became so depressed and the midwife advised me to take Sertraline which is more common in pregnancy and It's made me a lot better.

All the best @shaaan1329 xx