AIBU to stay no contact with my mother after false reports?

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AIBU to have no contact with my mother for repeatedly reporting me to child services? All false claims. 5 investigations. All been cleared. I'm highly embarrassed.

My sister thinks I should just move on. I literally can't.

Unless you’re a master of deception with a fantastic memory with the ability to create many details that slot in with the truth and holds up to close scrutiny by anyone investigating the truth you get found out.
Your mum’s lies like a house of cards collapsed, there is a trail leading back to your mum of many many claims of abuse that were proved to be completely made up.
Your sister is so bound up with your mum that she doesn’t care what the truth is as long as she can save her own skin. She too is toxic!
Your DD was brought up by you and your DH, she has witnessed you letting your mum’s behaviour go in the past to keep the peace. She has been shielded by you against the worst of your mum since she was born. She was brought up with love by her parents and it won’t be long before your mum needs a new victim and her true nature will be exposed. It could take a few months or a few years but your DD will come to her senses.

Oh mate - please don't blame yourself! How could you possibly have seen what she was? Children are programmed to trust their parents so they (and we as a species) survive. You literally could not have seen what she was, and by the time you were an adult you would have grown used to how she was and seen it as normal. Also, it's not like trying to spot something ordinary that you might see lots of and learn to recognise - people as evil as she is are thankfully rare, so how on earth could you know the signs to look for to recognise it?

Please think instead of the things you have done so well - kept your family together and safe despite this awful onslaught; and been a wonderful mum despite having no example to work from. You are AMAZING!!

OP she is a dreadful human being and you are right to not want anything to do with her.

Someone who is actively trying to hurt you and our children deserves to be cut off your life.

Frankly in your case I would move and change my phone/email.

I would also distance myself from a sibling who is supporting and enabling an abusive parent.

I think whilst it might be hard to do, you need to start fighting back.

I would see a solicitor to explore options and I would be making a formal complaint about the police saying there is nothing they can do

Of course there is something they can do.
Wasting police time for a starter. 5 times allegations were made and 5 times the allegations were found to be false.

Whilst the general consensus is that every allegation has to be investigated. How long between investigations are the new allegations made.
E.G if the week before it was proved that allegations of child abuse were found to be incorrect and all was well in the household. Why are they doing a full investigation again. Have SS ever started their investigation by investigating the person making these false claims. Maybe if the spotlight was turned it might put a stop to things

I think suing SS and / or your local authority for knowingly abusing your family causing you and dc distress and the break up of your family

If SS thought the allegations were the truth then they wouldn’t have apologised and doing multiple full investigations on the backs of receiving allegations from a known time waster and knowing that what they were doing was unnecessary is just joining in with the abuse