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Ola123 · 2023-03-18 23:56:49

Im in a long distance relationship with my 3 children's father. Ive been in the Uk fo4 4 yrs caring for mum with dementia. Ive been in temporary accomadation for the last 2 years with no help or support with childcare. Basically making it work for us as best i can. Dont get out much because if im not caring for kids its seeing to mum and all her life admin. Dont have time for socialising because any free time i have im shattered. While their Dad lives overseas can chill, sleep, eat and sh*t when he wants plus have me on the phone multiple times a day even when im busy ( most of the time) we have rekindled a relationship a year ago. He has visited us twice in a year. Each time he sees it as more of a 'vacation' and im the host. As i dont get any rest or time alone when he is here, just extra cooking and driving him to places as he is a 'tourist'. The thing is, he lives in Europe but from a Mauritius originally. He has gone there a week ago as his Nan was dying. I encouraged him to go asap. She died the next day after he arrived. Of course i gave as much support as i could by being on call if he needed me. However after a few days, it seems he is socialising more than someone who is mourning. Going from house to house, getting cooked for by different family members, food on the beach with palm trees and sunset, lush mountain views, picnics in remote hills, entertaining food chefs at restaurants. Of course to see this while we are here in the grey freezing rainy weather and totally exhausted me. But he bombards my phone with so many photos and videos ALL DAY everyday (33 pics and vid today alone) after the 10th photo, not sure what more to say but the obvious...'its beautiful'. He has been known to try and make me jealous in the past ' to see how id react' now i think he is trying way too hard. Even the kids are saying hes really rubbing it in now. Im not the jealous kind but, show me a photo with palm trees, food and beach, well goes without saying. I just feel he is rubbing it in way too much considering it was a urgent visit, to then be a luxury vacay for a month. And im here with the children without a break in 4 years. Not sure how to tell him, Just send me the best shot of the day. How would you ladies feel about it? Thank you in advance for making it to the end and for any advice if im being unreasonable xxx Photo to get the real picture

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