In a bit of a dilemma and would appreciate some anonymous, impartial advice if possible.
I’m 28, and up until I gave birth to my son in 2020 I have always been a size 10 - 12. I developed really horrendous postnatal depression and stopped exercising and looked to food as a comfort.
I am finally better but in three years I have gained almost 10 stone. I am now 20 stone with a BMI of 44 and I feel awful. Not just because of how I look but I get out of breath walking up the stairs, my back hurts standing too long, I snore incredibly badly and likely have sleep apnea.
I am eating healthily and trying to move more currently because I am determined to get back to my healthy weight. I have never felt so awful and I want to be healthy for my son as I am terrified of the consequences (I know I only have myself to blame).
I am looking into a gastric sleeve currently because I feel I really need help. However I am high risk as in 2015 I had my appendix and my colon removed in a sub total colectomy, a stoma bag for a year in open surgery & then another open surgery for a reversal and to close the stoma hole.
i have no issues since then; and in July 2022 had my gallbladder removed with no issues other than more pain due to the scarring.
I have consulted four surgeons so far - two have refused saying I am too complicated for the private sector and too high risk, however two surgeons have said yes, are skilled in operating on patients with experiences like mine and are confident it would be fine.
I don’t want to do it on the NHS as I have had a multiple failing by them in that my condition could have been treated with medication without surgery had they listened to me the entire year I was begging for help with my symptoms. I just can’t.
I’m not a silly person and I am concerned that two surgeons have said no. They both recommended I get other opinions which is why I have spoken to four but I don’t want to make the wrong decision and end up with complications or even death.
So I’m just looking for advice on if you were in my position what you would do. I know it’s ultimately my decision but any input would be much appreciated as my mind is mixed.
thank you.
AIBU?
Rejected by two bariatric surgeons but approved by two others - what do I do?
weightlosssurgeryprobs · 16/03/2023 17:23
Am I being unreasonable?
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WhereIsMyRefund · 16/03/2023 19:38
You have ‘only’ been overweight for three years. There is a chance you could reverse most of this without surgery, given specialist advice and support.
I would spend the money on nutritionists and psychologists who can work together with you to address the underlying issues. With the tablets others have mentioned if needed. Good luck.
weightlosssurgeryprobs · 16/03/2023 19:34
I don’t have a pouch I had a straight rejoin small intestine - rectum. I am looking into ozempic now - anyone got any experience they could share with me??
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weightlosssurgeryprobs · 16/03/2023 19:34
I don’t have a pouch I had a straight rejoin small intestine - rectum. I am looking into ozempic now - anyone got any experience they could share with me??
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