My inlaws like to take out our 3 year old son every so often which is lovely. He enjoys it and so do they. However, AIBU to think that my inlaws could just let us know where they're going with him? Is it OK that I just want to know whereabouts my son is?
He's only 3, he has special needs and unfortunately suffers from a weak immune system and gets recurrent tonsillitis, etc. So for those reasons, I am a protective mummy but that doesn't mean that I wouldn't let him go out with his grandparents. I'm not trying to control them and I do trust them but I still want to know where he is.
The problem is, my inlaws have been quite secretive when taking ds out and I just don't get why. So now I ask them but I don't think they like it. They don't do things spontaneously with him, that's just not them, so everything is planned beforehand.
I know posters will likely say I'm controlling but all I'm asking is a quick text with ' we're at the park then going to get somethjng to eat at...'
Or inlaws just letting us know when they pick him up.
Is this strange of me or can other parents feel this way?
AIBU?
Secretive grandparents! Where are they taking ds?
StrangeEffect · 20/10/2022 22:43
PaintByLetters · 20/10/2022 22:49
I would expect "we're off to the duck park and then maybe we'll get some lunch".
I wouldn't expect a text telling me where they were getting lunch - that does feel like overkill.
StrangeEffect · 20/10/2022 22:53
They want to take ds out next week and I'm already stressing about it as they haven't said anything else about where. I will be asking and just keeping fingers crossed that they'll tell me.
DoodlePug · 20/10/2022 22:54
A general idea is not unreasonable at all.
However your comment on the tapas above does make me wonder, if they'd told you they were taking him there what would you have said?
I agree it's not really somewhere you'd take a 3 yo but also he'll come to no harm whatsoever. If you'd have said they shouldn't take him then you probably have your answer about why they don't tell you.
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