DC a couple of years off this now but it's beginning to worry me nonetheless.
My finances are as follows: I'm divorced and earn about £52k. Ex husband contributes nothing and I have to pay him £10k when youngest child reaches 21 as part of our divorce settlement. I have just over £21k in savings. I usually manage to save about £100-£200 per month - this is quite a bit less than a couple of years ago just due to rising costs and having to replace my car when it died last year. My mortgage is currently just under £700 per month and I also have about £5k other debts (low - 0 interest - unavoidable at the time).
Martin Lewis website said last time I checked that I should expect to contribute about £7k per child per year. This would have been a struggle anyway but now looks pretty much impossible. My mortgage is fixed for another couple of years and my fuel until next year. Both will rise massively just as dd1 is due to go to uni. What the fuck will happen?
AIBU to think that if inflation/interest rates stay like this they are going to have to look again at the thresholds for parental contributions but AIalsoBU to say they won't and university is going to become unaffordable for many?
AIBU?
To think it's going to be a struggle to send DC to university now?
coffeerevelsrule · 16/10/2022 15:37
Am I being unreasonable?
263 votes. Final results.
POLLUnderscore21 · 16/10/2022 15:51
Lots of undergraduates live at home nowadays and attend local Universities, your DC may have to do this.
coffeerevelsrule · 16/10/2022 15:58
Both dc are highly academic and have their sights set on prestige universities that are not near us and I don't want to see them unable to fulfil those ambitions due to this useless, corrupt government and its shitty decisions. I realise my situation is quite a good one currently, but if my mortgage goes up to something like £1k or even more it really won't be. Ex won't contribute anything. I also don't really want the dc having to work - or not so much to support themselves as I think that would impact on grades. A part time job to top up socialising costs - fine, but having to work to pay the rent - not really feasible I'd say.
celestialsphere · 18/10/2022 11:38
If students do all work nowadays it’s actually because even the full loan (or part loan with parental contribution) isn't enough to live on in most parts of the country now. Things have changed and everything is more expensive, particularly rent and food so the fact that people managed when they were students without parental help doesn't mean that students can manage now. The cognitive dissonance among those who think parents can't possibly afford to contribute even if they are on relatively high incomes but students will easily be able to work enough cover most of their living costs as well as study is quite laughable.
coffeerevelsrule · 18/10/2022 12:28
DodgyLeftLeg I've said a couple of times now that I accept the idea that they will probably have to work, having read the multiple posts about that.
I think it's a pretty rotten system to be honest and there isn't enough discussion about it. On the one hand they're seen as adults and plenty on here take that attitude and are all 'it's up to them if they want to go - they'll have to work,' etc etc but on the other hand it's the parent's income that decides the level of loan they get, so they are viewed a dependants. But not properly because it's only income from what I can see - outgoings aren't considered or blended families etc so people are expected in some cases to pay amounts that are just not affordable.
And when it comes to split families like mine, many people seem to take the view that the nrp is under no obligation to contribute as the 'child' is actually an adult now and the rp needs to stay out of it as it's between two adults (seen lots of threads about this on here). It's a proper mess.
I'll be contributing whatever I can afford and also encouraging the dc to work within reason AND doing whatever I can to get ex to make some sort of contribution, maybe in the form of waiving his £10k. But I stand by my OP in that this Tory created economic crisis is going to have the effect that many people now won't be able to afford uni, or perhaps will end up working to an extent that their grades are affected.
coffeerevelsrule · 18/10/2022 12:28
DodgyLeftLeg I've said a couple of times now that I accept the idea that they will probably have to work, having read the multiple posts about that.
I think it's a pretty rotten system to be honest and there isn't enough discussion about it. On the one hand they're seen as adults and plenty on here take that attitude and are all 'it's up to them if they want to go - they'll have to work,' etc etc but on the other hand it's the parent's income that decides the level of loan they get, so they are viewed a dependants. But not properly because it's only income from what I can see - outgoings aren't considered or blended families etc so people are expected in some cases to pay amounts that are just not affordable.
And when it comes to split families like mine, many people seem to take the view that the nrp is under no obligation to contribute as the 'child' is actually an adult now and the rp needs to stay out of it as it's between two adults (seen lots of threads about this on here). It's a proper mess.
I'll be contributing whatever I can afford and also encouraging the dc to work within reason AND doing whatever I can to get ex to make some sort of contribution, maybe in the form of waiving his £10k. But I stand by my OP in that this Tory created economic crisis is going to have the effect that many people now won't be able to afford uni, or perhaps will end up working to an extent that their grades are affected.
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user1487194234 · 18/10/2022 12:44
I don’t want mine working in term time
I want them to focus on their studies
I was skint at Uni and don’t want that for mine
My money my choice
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