I’m exhausted here so this may be a bit more self pitying than I mean it to but I’m on my own all weekend and for large chunks of the week as well. Husband works away a lot. Even when he’s home he’s in that headspace where he’s thinking of work if you like. Then at weekends there’s always something that needs doing.
I am a bit low after endless walks in the park to look at the ducks on my own. And other friends are with their husbands and partners having family days out. I was trying to think of a way round this and single parent groups seemed a possibility but id probably just piss then off?
AIBU?
To see if there’s any groups for single parents even though I’m not a single parent
Onmyownbutnot · 01/10/2022 19:00
Am I being unreasonable?
176 votes. Final results.
POLLOnmyownbutnot · 02/10/2022 17:07
It isn’t just the recycling centre though, it’s somehow lots of small(ish) tasks that amount to me never seeing him!
DixonD · 01/10/2022 23:18
What about someone whose husband works all week, then immediately after work goes to their hobby. 5 days a week. Doesn’t even come home first. Then spends all weekend - ALL weekend doing it too. Not coming home until 9pm and then going straight to bed.
The only time I see my husband for longer than 5 minutes is at work (we work together) and he sees that as “time spent together.”
He has never put our 6 year old to bed. Never done bath time. We’ve not eaten a meal together for months.
Im not a “single mum” by your definition, but it certainly feels like it and there are plenty others out there like myself.
Speedweed · 01/10/2022 19:30
I am a solo parent, and one of the most maddening things is someone with a partner who is involved, paying their way and merely busy, claiming that their situation is in any way analogous to mine. I wouldn't be impressed if I started chatting to someone at a single parent group who then revealed they weren't actually single or solo parenting.
Outside of that situation, I would be sympathetic to another mum (whether single or not) who said they were bored and lonely and wanted to make friends with other mums to do activities with the children.
It's just something about the invasion of a space that's not for you which feels a bit disingenuous. What about going to different children's groups (church and library groups are often free) and seeing if there is anyone you click with?
HardLanding · 01/10/2022 19:22
Yes you would piss me off, massively so.
Onmyownbutnot · 02/10/2022 05:38
That’s awful @DixonD
Mine isn’t quite as bad, we do have a day together maybe one weekend a month. But it’s just hard knowing I’m on my own all weekend with tiny children.
It doesn’t mean I want to leave, I’m hoping things will get better, but for now that’s the situation I’m in and so just trying to make the best of it.
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Onmyownbutnot · 01/10/2022 19:00
I’m exhausted here so this may be a bit more self pitying than I mean it to but I’m on my own all weekend and for large chunks of the week as well. Husband works away a lot. Even when he’s home he’s in that headspace where he’s thinking of work if you like. Then at weekends there’s always something that needs doing.
I am a bit low after endless walks in the park to look at the ducks on my own. And other friends are with their husbands and partners having family days out. I was trying to think of a way round this and single parent groups seemed a possibility but id probably just piss then off?
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