DH and I live in a European country (not UK). DH has been away with work all week. I had a work night out organised for this evening and DH was returning and looking after DC. I had previous conversations with FH about the arrangements for this evening and what the plans would be with collecting the kids from their various clubs. All seemed fine.
So tonight, I have been out with my work colleagues. My phone sat in my bag the whole time. We were out from 7pm until I got home at 11.30. DH is really upset with me. Turns out he text me at 10.30 and called me at 11.10pm (and called another a subsequent 6 time’s.) unfortunately my phone wasn’t on loud so I didn’t realise.
The last time I went on a night out here, I had some difficulty as taxis are few and far between here, but tonight I had a lift home arranged. DH and I have discussed the plans for tonight on a few occasions and he hasn’t voiced any concerns or asked about my plans for getting home. He is now mad at me because he has apparently been worried sick for ages.
i find this reaction really odd. We have been married 11 years and he’s never reacted like this. Although, in fairness, it’s usually him that goes out. I only do once or twice a year. He is really angry with me for not communicating with him.
I have recently told him that I’m not feeling too happy in our relationship, due to the way he talks to me. He gets angry with me in-front of our kids and I’m not okay with that. I just hate the fact that I’ve had a nice night tonight. My first night out since feb, and I’ve upset him somehow. Or maybe, IABU and I owe him an apology?
AIBU?
DH can’t contact me on night out. AIBU or is DH?
Cranberrysauceysauce · 30/09/2022 22:46
Am I being unreasonable?
384 votes. Final results.
POLLthenewduchessoflapland · 01/10/2022 08:41
*I only do once or twice a year
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Do you think it's normal for a grown adult to only go out with friends once or twice a year?
Cranberrysauceysauce · 01/10/2022 07:29
Just to clarify, I didnt specifically discuss with him my arrangements for getting home. I did tell him I wasn’t taking the car because I was getting a lift. Maybe he didn’t realise I meant a lift both there and back. He also said “what if something had happened and I needed to get in contact with you?”. I do understand that, but nothing did happen so I think to be this upset with me is a complete overreaction.
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