Dd is five and a half months old and super clingy to me. If I pass her to a friend, my mum or even her dad she will look around for a minute then gradually become distressed when she realises it's not me holding her. When she was younger I hated hearing her cry so much so I'd just take her back immediately. Now she's getting older (and nursery is potentially on the horizon for when I go back to work) I feel like I need to toughen up a bit. Especially when it comes to dh having her.
My question is how? Even when I go out I feel so anxious that she's screaming at home for me. She isn't bf and hasn't been since about 3 weeks old (didn't work well for us so moved to formula quite quickly) so it's not that that's making her clingy to me. I guess it's just because I am the primary carer.
Do I just need to suck it up and leave her with dh or my mum knowing that she'll cry for a bit? Hopefully it will be the best thing for her in the long run. It's so hard. I blame myself for not 'passing her around' much when she was little but I just didn't want to.
AIBU?
Anyone else have a really clingy baby?
sillylily23 · 27/09/2022 21:03
Teddyhasgonetobed · 28/09/2022 01:23
Please just cuddle and enjoy your baby. She doesn't need to toughen up she is just looking for comfort from her mum which you are giving her in spades. This will give her all the reassurance she needs for her to take on the challenge of nursery and beyond.
She may cry for a little bit in a new setting or she might be like mine who both at three decided to run into nursery on the first day and sat down with the other children and started playing without so much as a bye mum. I was by far the more emotional one.
I hope it all goes smoothly and if you are finding others are making you doubt your cuddles with your daughter know that it probably comes from a place of longing to be in that lucky position you have.
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