This is definitely a petty thing to be annoyed about but it's a bit of a last straw - so want to know if I'm being unreasonable.
My father moved abroad 6 years ago, the original plan was to put him on my council tax etc, as he was planning to split his time between living in the U.K. with my family and abroad.
Due to COVID however this was only possible a couple of those years.
So as he is registered at my house I get all his post
He is currently applying for a visa for his wife to be able to live in the U.K. with him and explore moving back permanently
Most of his post is junk so I recycle/shred.
I received a letter for him today and it looked important so scanned it to him. He then asked if I could keep this letter and any banking or official type letters for the next 6 months as he might need them for her visa application.
I said I would try, but as this is a busy family home (2 kids, both parents working FT, I'm pregnant with number 3) and I barely (read don't) keep on top of my own important post so I can't promise to keep all these letters for months (let alone find them all again half a year down the line)
He is annoyed that I won't guarantee the safety of his letters, when I have agreed to scan them to him, keeping track of them for months is just a bit too much for me to promise.
The most annoying thing is he isn't even sure he needs the hard copies, they don't accept online bank statements but nothing about scanned hard copies - and he won't bother checking of course.
AIBU to be pissed about this request and his attitude to me not being able to 100% guarantee in 6 months time all these letters will be findable?
AIBU?
AIBU - annoyed about having to keep dads mail?
letterjerk · 06/09/2022 16:33
letterjerk · 06/09/2022 18:09
She is eligible for the visa as she is married to a British citizen
So it has nothing to do with her visa application
Bonbon21 · 06/09/2022 17:51
So...to be clear... your father is using your address in the uk while he is living abroad to apply for a visa for this country for his wife.
She presumably would not be eligible for said visa if they used their actual address?
He is keeping a foot in the uk door so he can access nhs and possibly other services when he is here?
All sounds a bit questionable to me.......
Fraud.
Aiding and abetting.
bakehimawaytoys · 06/09/2022 19:03
And you sound like a rude cow who gets her kick out of insulting strangers on the internet. Hop off the bandwagon and dial down the self-righteous indignation.
OP, you could look into mail redirection with the post office. I don't know if there's an international service but there may be a solution there. I personally think YANBU, this kind of admin always falls on women and it's tedious beyond belief. Much like all the bosom-hitching on this thread.
sleepygal · 06/09/2022 18:30
Gee, if you can't manage to store a dozen envelopes in a box at the back of the wardrobe how are you going to manage with 3 kids. You sound petty and hopeless.
bakehimawaytoys · 06/09/2022 19:03
And you sound like a rude cow who gets her kick out of insulting strangers on the internet. Hop off the bandwagon and dial down the self-righteous indignation.
OP, you could look into mail redirection with the post office. I don't know if there's an international service but there may be a solution there. I personally think YANBU, this kind of admin always falls on women and it's tedious beyond belief. Much like all the bosom-hitching on this thread.
sleepygal · 06/09/2022 18:30
Gee, if you can't manage to store a dozen envelopes in a box at the back of the wardrobe how are you going to manage with 3 kids. You sound petty and hopeless.
sleepygal · 06/09/2022 18:30
Gee, if you can't manage to store a dozen envelopes in a box at the back of the wardrobe how are you going to manage with 3 kids. You sound petty and hopeless.
Oblomov22 · 06/09/2022 18:22
You're frightened of losing the folder or bag? WTF?
sleepygal · 06/09/2022 18:30
Gee, if you can't manage to store a dozen envelopes in a box at the back of the wardrobe how are you going to manage with 3 kids. You sound petty and hopeless.
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