I know that I have few rights as per current legislation but am I being unreasonable to think I have earned a segment of our next family home (I'm talking in terms of ethical principles not legality)
Living with partner of 15 years and our 4 children. He is buying a house outright which will be paid for by selling the house we have lived in for 10 years and is also owned by him. I have worked and contributed to running the household for 15 years and have, of course, sacrificed career progression to support my family and his career, not to mention, I have also grafted on the current house, helping to increase its value and spent small amounts of money on it when I have been able to.
Partner thinks I'm ludicrous to even have these thoughts as I've not put in any big amounts of money. I had hoped I might be able to aim for a small mortgage on our next home that I could pay off myself to give me some security and to just feel like I have a place in the world that I have earned but he wants to own it outright.
Marriage not on cards right now for various reasons.
AIBU?
To think that my contributions to our family home count for anything?
Greenlife1 · 04/08/2022 15:12
Am I being unreasonable?
1336 votes. Final results.
POLLImthedamnfoolwhoshothim · 14/08/2022 15:23
In the UK both parties need to consent to marriage...so she can want it all she likes. If he says no it's not going to happen
ilyx · 14/08/2022 12:39
No she isn’t. She needs to marry him. And if divorcing the courts would take into account how long they cohabitated, not just how long they’ve been married for.
Summerhasbeenandgone · 04/08/2022 15:15
Legally you are fucked op.
ilyx · 14/08/2022 12:39
No she isn’t. She needs to marry him. And if divorcing the courts would take into account how long they cohabitated, not just how long they’ve been married for.
Summerhasbeenandgone · 04/08/2022 15:15
Legally you are fucked op.
neverbeenskiing · 04/08/2022 15:18
YANBU I think but also, and I don't mean this is a nasty way at all, OP..I'm not sure it matters? Morally, ethically you might be spot on but if you have no legal rights to your home then it's irrelevant isn't it? The moral high ground won't help you in the event that you separate.
Greenlife1 · 10/08/2022 23:05
@Banana2079 Ignorant much?
I'm a front line worker.
I have financially contributed.
I was asking people's opinions on whether they think this situation in this day and age is unreasonable. You obviously think that it is unreasonable, fair enough.
I, however, do not need or want 'his' house. What I do want is the opportunity to be added to the house for a percentage reflective of what I will be paying.
Sheesh...Get a grip ladies!
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