8 year old up till 4.30 am is unreasonable?

[keepsane]

Just picked up my 8 year old DD from a sleepover at her friend from schools house and it turns out she and her friend were up until 4.30 am. The mum came into the room and said it was time to calm down and go to sleep...at 4.30 am!!

I'm really unhappy, in what world is letting 8 year old girls stay awake till that time unaccompanied may I add as the mum was in her bed, okay? 12 am - fair enough, maybe 1 am at a push if excited but 4.30 am is ridiculous and my DD is knackered.

I don't know whether to text the mum. She certainly won't be back there for a sleepover. AIBU?

[WyfOfBathe]

Poor kid.

I only ever had 1 sleepover at my house as a child. My mum was strict and made us all go to bed at a reasonable time and ended up shouting at all my friends when they weren't asleep. None of them wanted to come back.

But at least I got to have fun at friends' houses. You're even punishing her for that. I hope she keeps having fun in the future, and just learns not to tell you!

[Redglitter]

Shes grounded??? Do you always over react like this

Ffs poor kid

[SomePosters]

So glad to see the prevailing attitude on here

I don’t believe in letting them run riot all night as once they’re over tired AND hyper they’re a danger to themselves and others 😂

I generally get them into pjs and have a lovely group story time with the lights down low and then say good night, sleep tight

the rule is if I can’t hear you then I know you’re sleeping. If I start to hear banging and shouting they will get a row but they can stay up talking and playing quietly as long as they like

this is their time to spend with each other, that’s the point isn’t it, to top up their social cup? As long as they aren’t running about and winding up all night then they can sleep later

[sunglassesonthetable]

You can threaten to put them in separate rooms, actually put them in separate rooms, threaten to call the visitor's parents to collect her, actually call the visitor's parents to collect her...

@WhiskerPatrol

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Oooooh happy and fun nights at yours!

[Gottalaff]

Looks like the OP has got her head in the sand. If you ask for people’s opinions, you’ll get them. Seems pretty unanimous.

[sunglassesonthetable]

4.30am is far too late for that age, surprised at all the PP who say different!! 1am latest, very latest.

Of course it's too late. 🙄That's the whole point.

[WhiskerPatrol]

Guess I'm old-fashioned but I wouldn't allow or be happy with this at 8 years old. As for all the wet lettuces saying "you can't stop them".... what? You can threaten to put them in separate rooms, actually put them in separate rooms, threaten to call the visitor's parents to collect her, actually call the visitor's parents to collect her...

[harriethoyle]

@keepsane

No they were no dads present as she is a single mum. It just wouldn't have been allowed at my house. When my DD has had sleepovers they are always in bed at reasonable hour

No wonder your DD wants to have sleepovers at other people's rather than yours then! Unclench. Getting razzed up on sugar and surviving on no sleep is an absolute rite of passage of small people and it would be a shame if you denied your child this.

[11Hawkins]

You grounded her?!

Your DD is going to grow up and want to get away from you as soon as humanly possible if this is how you behave over tiny mundane things like this.
way over the top!

[lioncitygirl]

You grounded her?! Omg OP! What a bloody overreaction!

[catpoppet]

4.30am is far too late for that age, surprised at all the PP who say different!! 1am latest, very latest.

[sunglassesonthetable]

What a joke.

[Heronwatcher]

Good grief – unless you think they were out in nightclubs or roaming the streets you’re being totally unreasonable and why an earth have you grounded your own DD when she’s just abided by the house rules where she was? She’s not done anything wrong at all. And why don’t you allow sleepovers to go late your house – what exactly do you think will happen? One early night and the next day everything will be fine.

[OnaBegonia]

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that
Why? what has done to deserve this?

[MushyPeasPrincess]

@MultiBird

Can you imagine, having being kept awake all night, getting a text of complaint from a mother who's had a nice child free evening and a full night's sleep? 😆

Exactly! Think yourself lucky and stay schtum apart from "thank you for having her" OP!

Sleepovers never involve actual sleep.

[bumpytrumpy]

@riesenrad

OP did you ever go to stay at someone's house when you were 8 years old? This is completely normal when you are 8 years old and excited.

The mum could have told them to pipe down every hour from 11pm and it wouldn't have made any difference.

By the way, why is it the mother's "fault"? Was there no dad present?

This is rubbish. It's absolutely fine to insist that kids sleeping over actually go to sleep. I let them do what they like until 10pm then it's quiet time and everyone has been asleep by 10.30pm no problem. Up again by 6am but that's fine! If my daughter was allowed to stay up until 4.30 there's no way she'd be going back.

[Easilystartled]

@keepsane

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that.

I think OP is having a laugh folks. No one can be that much of a twat 🤣

[Afterfire]

You’ve grounded her?!?

You’re a fun sponge. What a miserable person!

[crosstalk]

Okay, I'm the fun police. I don't think there should be sleepovers in term time. Any child loses a whole day with the family, catching up, preparing for school. One white night with no sleep takes a lot of catching up on not just an early night the next day. Somebody needs to be policing what they're watching - whether it's thriller killers or porn, preferably by turning off the internet, and if the kids don't sleep till 0430 the parents need to stay awake which impacts them and any other children in the house. I think they are an obnoxious import.

[placewherewebelong]

Well done on teaching your OP that other peoples actions are her fault, OP.

[lolil]

This is one of those threads you really hope isn't true

[schoolingquery]

@keepsane

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that.

Grounded for what?

[florenceandthemac]

@MultiBird

Can you imagine, having being kept awake all night, getting a text of complaint from a mother who's had a nice child free evening and a full night's sleep? 😆

🙌🏼

[oakleaffy]

You are BU!
4:30am shows at least they went to sleep :)

[placewherewebelong]

@keepsane

Oh trust me, my DD is grounded after that.

You cannot be serious.