Our daughter recently got engaged to her long term boyfriend of 12 years. They're both in their 30s, working, and have been living together for quite a few years. My husband and I are both retired so no more money is coming in. We do still go on holidays, but don't have anything like as much money as we used to have. We happily paid for private education and private healthcare and plenty more for all our children and were happy to do so but AIBU to think that by now we've done our bit and our daughter should pay for her own wedding?
AIBU?
To not pay for my daughter's wedding?
WhereDidTheYearsGo · 30/05/2022 18:57
JinglingHellsBells · 01/06/2022 16:18
You mean YOUR world.
You can't delete or ridicule someone else's experiences, both past and present, just because they are different to yours.
MN is hardly a sample of the whole of society.
If you say I'm not in the real world, then neither are all my friends who have paid for weddings recently, or their DCs, or their DCs friends.
toomuchlaundry · 01/06/2022 15:58
@JinglingHellsBells welcome to the real world
toomuchlaundry · 01/06/2022 15:58
@JinglingHellsBells welcome to the real world
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Dnaltocs · 31/05/2022 21:25
The brides parents traditionally pay for the wedding. Some save for many years.
You say you don’t have the amount of money to previously had. Why did you not put money aside instead of spending what you did? For whatever reason sadly you didn’t allocate some money to your daughters big day.
Not much to say, you spent the money.
Dnaltocs · 31/05/2022 21:25
The brides parents traditionally pay for the wedding. Some save for many years.
You say you don’t have the amount of money to previously had. Why did you not put money aside instead of spending what you did? For whatever reason sadly you didn’t allocate some money to your daughters big day.
Not much to say, you spent the money.
Dnaltocs · 31/05/2022 21:25
The brides parents traditionally pay for the wedding. Some save for many years.
You say you don’t have the amount of money to previously had. Why did you not put money aside instead of spending what you did? For whatever reason sadly you didn’t allocate some money to your daughters big day.
Not much to say, you spent the money.
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