To think 8.30am is an acceptable time for a child to play in the garden?

[Theresamagicalplace]

The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

[Dahliasandtea]

@PrettyMaybug
they do DIY and gardening at all hours of the day and night. They have no respect for anyone around. Park their cars across people’s driveways and are generally rude and antisocial. I used to care and now I feel like if constant hammering 12h a day from 8am or fires in the back garden in the middle of the day on a Sunday when my washing is out or mowing the lawn at 9pm on a summer evening or letting their dog bark all hours of the day and night is ok, then my kids can play whenever they want.

[bananamuffin89]

@Theresamagicalplace

The tiny terrorist is on one this morning and I said to my partner it's fine we can get him out in garden in 20 mins or so to burn off the excess energy. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me anything before 10 or 10.30 on a weekend was unacceptable and would make us those neighbours. For context we have 2 attached neighbours both with babies or young children themselves and ours is only a toddler so plays relatively quietly (obviously not silently though). So aibu, am I accidentally the neighbour from hell?

Ooffff courseeeee
The child is playing, let them playyyyyy:)
I'm sure thw noise of playing isn't the same as a rock band playing at 8am. Noone would complain

[Mothership4two]

Blimey DH had a moan that our next door neighbour started chain sawing a fallen tree at 10 am this morning. I think it's OK to be noisy after 10 at weekends (IMO) but I would have let neighbours know if we were going to be really loud - they didn't. Not comparing a toddler to heavy machinery though! But that's my rule. So it was a YABU from me

[Islandgirl68]

Yes absolutely. If yiu live in a built up area you have to accept all the different noises that brings. From kids playing outside to building work, to noisy teenagers to party nights, keen gardeners etc. People like to moan. Bet the people that live near parks love early morning wake up calls. It is your garden you use it as it suits you. 8.30 is perfectly fine. If people don't like it, they can move some where quieter.

[Sugarcube84]

I play it by ear and if another neighbour starts mowing/strimming/pressure washing at 8am then it’s fair game. Other than that I leave it to around 9.30

[00kitty]

8.30 is fine, maybe if you had 3 or 4 out there then I’d agree with other posters saying after 9 but one child is hardly going to cause a riot. Our neighbours have their gardener turn up at 7.50 on Sunday mornings trimming hedges!

[Rosebel]

My son was out before 8:30 this weekend. He's 2 but non verbal so he wasn't screaming.
If he does become more verbal then 9 would be my earliest time as it was with my older children
Having said that we live on a busy road and next door usually let their children out around 8:30 so...

[surreygirl1987]

It's really quite sad to hear some of these responses. Yes we should raise kids to be respectful and considerate but it genuinely wouldn't even occur to me to peeved at the sound of a kid having fun even if it was waking me in the morning. My neighbour's kid has been kicking his football over our fence and loudly against our fence for the past 5 years. He's a teenager now. I honestly love it. Why? Because I'd far rather he was doing something wholesome and exercising in his own bloody garden than melting his mind on an x-box or doing drugs on the streets feeling like he isn't really wanted in society. Countries across the continent such as Italy and Greece have a much more inclusive view on child rearing and they are very much appreciated as members of their community. In the UK it seems that just kids being kids is too much for most people... and then we wonder why so many of our kids are growing up antisocial or with mental health problems or both....

I agree with you. I'm not saying they should be screeching and screaming, and I'd certainly take my boys inside if either of them started tantrumming etc, but I think it's so harsh to keep them contained in the house for hours just because neighbours like to sleep late. I really do think 8:30am is perfectly reasonable for playing outside. I hate noisy neighbours, like the sort that hold loud parties until 2am or who are always revving their engines, but even before I had kids I didn't mind hearing the giggles of a couple of toddlers!

As for the suggestion that parents put Peppa Pig on the TV for an hour or so rather than allow young children to play outside... are you actually serious?! And you wonder why there is a screen issue with kids and why kids are going outside less than ever, glued to screen instead?! That is sickening advice and I hope nobody is foolish enough to follow it!!

[sborber]

No, do you know what, sod your neighbours. Do what's best for YOU on YOUR weekend. If your neighbours have an issue, they'll soon let you know about it (which I doubt, since they have kids, too) but until then, if your DS needs to let off some steam, let him out before bloody 9am. As you've said, he's a toddler so probably wouldn't make much noise anyway.

[Poppetlove]

I don’t think you are unreasonable.

mine was out at 8.30 pre breakfast for some morning grounding on the grass.

a single child is not that loud, I’d say my husband makes more noise out playing than child does.

[LoisLane66]

One word. YES.

[Figgygal]

I wouldnt let mine out on a sunday until 10am
We are detached but very quiet street and noise just carries

[Ahurricaneofjacarandas]

It's really quite sad to hear some of these responses. Yes we should raise kids to be respectful and considerate but it genuinely wouldn't even occur to me to peeved at the sound of a kid having fun even if it was waking me in the morning. My neighbour's kid has been kicking his football over our fence and loudly against our fence for the past 5 years. He's a teenager now. I honestly love it. Why? Because I'd far rather he was doing something wholesome and exercising in his own bloody garden than melting his mind on an x-box or doing drugs on the streets feeling like he isn't really wanted in society. Countries across the continent such as Italy and Greece have a much more inclusive view on child rearing and they are very much appreciated as members of their community. In the UK it seems that just kids being kids is too much for most people... and then we wonder why so many of our kids are growing up antisocial or with mental health problems or both....

[surreygirl1987]

Ok I am being unreasonable haha

I really don't think you are! I don't really get the issue... if people are still asleep at 8:30am doesn't this mean they probably went to bed after midnight? That's their choice surely, but they then can't moan about a toddler playing in the garden? I don't think I've slept that late for many years! It's not like you're hammering the walls... it's unfair to keep a toddler cooped up just because people go to bed late!

[Horst]

id say 8:30-9am is fine for them to be in the garden though as long as they are not shouty screaming children. Just pottering types.

[Mandyjack]

Plenty of people are outside when it's warm. As long as your toddlers not screaming I don't see an issue

[FabFitFifties]

8.30 fine for Saturdays. 9 for Sundays.

[Horst]

I love all the take him to a park before 9am like parks don’t have houses near them either.

so we get the early 7am toddler who can’t be in their own gardens and the teenagers at 9/10pm night.

[Mrsmch123]

Yip send him out....it's his house and garden too. Neighbours will have to suck it up🤷🏻‍♀️

[lazystar]

I hate hearing my own kids at 8.30 let alone other little darlings screaming their heads off.
And when iI am kid free I definitely don't want to hear anybody until as late as possible, preferably after 10am.

I've got a 3year old who doesn't go to nursery until 9.30am.
If she's still asleep in morning then while we are not forced to school we are not getting up !

My neighbour is not allowed to knock until after 9am.
The school kids don't make noise that time in the morning so why should we have to listen to other kids whose parents don't want to listen and shove them in the garden ?
Especially when the mornings are getting brighter.

I'd cheerfully club someone around the head before my coffee.
I'm a niteowl I don't hoover or have disco's, but upset me in the morning and you would know about it !

[ArtVandalay]

8.30 at the weekend is far too early. I'd hate you 😆

[AtticAttack3000]

"The National Society for Clean Air and Environmental Protection calls for noisy work to take place between 8am-7pm throughout Monday to Saturday and 10am-5pm on Sundays." - I pretty much work to these timings for the kids too, although I wouldn't let them out until closer to 9 on a Saturday, and maybe a bit before 10 on a Sunday

[AJWalker2016]

My neighbours seem to think their kids kicking footballs off our adjoined fence 7am is perfectly fine so 🤷‍♀️

[Hawkins001]

I would suggest earlier, but to keep the peace around 9am

[Riverlee]

I think 8.30am would be fine, unless they were shrieking and screaming.