I run a wedding catering company - based on a food truck and catering to the less formal weddings. I'm now seeing a trend where brides and grooms are emailing me and are telling me that they expect the guests to pay for the dinner themselves on the day 😮
I'm turning down these events as a matter of policy - largely because I think it is the most cheapskate move ever. But also because I could arrive and find they have 50 guests, 5 food trucks and half of them have brought a picnic instead, and I lose money.
AIBU to think most guests would baulk if I presented a card reader for their dinner at a wedding?
AIBU?
Brides & Grooms expecting wedding guests to pay for their own dinner
ohwhyohwhyohwhyohwhy · 22/04/2022 09:50
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLmudgetastic · 22/04/2022 10:29
So if you are strapped for cash you can't afford to host you are not entitled to celebrate your special day with friends and party ?
Because of some arbitrary rules and conventions around "hosting "
If people are aware ( and the bride and groom don't have a gift list because they can't afford to provide food in return ) I think it's fine
Although asking for a guaranteed income for your time and effort is also fine
ohwhyohwhyohwhyohwhy · 25/04/2022 16:33
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BeerLoas · 23/04/2022 22:50
Collectively guests pay more for weddings than the B&G I think. Hotels, travel, gifts, drink at the wedding, possibly an outfit, other food/drinks if you have to stay over x 100 people.
Weddings are so OTT these days. Ridiculous. people want an Insta day but can’t afford it so costs have been pushed back on to guests. No one expects free champagne all day but if you can’t afford it you shouldn’t be doing it.
Jaxhog · 23/04/2022 22:44
I've been to weddings that were 'bring and share', but never had to actually pay for my meal!
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