Caught DD out, now SHE is mad??

SexiestDogWalker · 2022-04-14 09:27:32

For the last few months I've been hearing DD 15 on discord late at night talking to her friends rubbishing me and DH. Like "my parents are such losers, they don't understand me, if they really knew me etc." From DD's response (voice carries in our house and she knows this) friends reciprocate with horrible stories about their own parents. Anyway, yesterday I popped out for a walk while DS's and DH were busy with an event and DD was watching a film. It started to rain, so I came back in, but because my boots were muddy I came round the back and DD won't have heard me. I immediately heard DD on chat with her friends and froze when I heard her say "I swear, as soon as I can get away from these abusive fucks, I'm packing my bags and I'm gone." So I sat still and I listened. Normally she's got her headphones on so I can only hear her calling us and her brothers losers and cringe etc. But she didn't this time and I could hear their responses. "Your mum is literally Satan" "Your dad obviously don't care what your mum does, he should divorce her and take you with him" "No fuck that! He should put you in foster care and give you the chance of a happy family" One started sharing a story of how their mum "fat shamed" them by telling them they didn't need more sugar when they went to eat another twix. DD responded "you think that's bad? Mum weighs my food and only lets me have 800 calories a day if I'm good." "If she lets you out of your bedroom!" "Is the cunt still locking you in?" "Homophobic bitch!" (DD has had boyfriends and girlfriends) I couldn't believe it. I still can't bloody believe it! DD has a neurological condition and I am her carer. She is not on a calorie controlled diet. She is not on prison rations. She is not locked in anywhere. I am not homophobic! I take her to meet her girlfriend! DD has never had a hand raised to her in her life and DH and I are both very involved parents with all three of our children. I stewed on this and then asked DD about it today. She first flipped about me sneaking around and policing her chats [hmm] Then said that her friends have horrible parents and she didn't feel like she fit in so she's created these characters so she does. She said she went for the exact opposites so they were easy to remember. A really nasty evil mum who is homophobic and never lets her have anything, a dad who couldn't care less about talking to her or her feelings and brothers who bully her and never let her join in with anything!! That really *IS* the fucking polar opposite. 😡 I've told her that's so bloody dangerous, not to mention hurtful and if her social standing with these friends rests on whether or not she has a shit home life, she needs better friends. She never invites these friends in and now I know why. I'm furious! What if these kids go and tell their (quite probably normal) parents and they rightly raise concerns officially about this poor abused child? Doesn't matter if nothing comes of it- mud sticks! I can't believe she's done this when I do absolutely everything for her! She told me to stop acting like she's done something bad to me, slammed her door and started ranting about free speech and people being "So BUTTHURT!!!" Aibu to tell her that if she's going to be telling dreadful and dangerous lies like this, she's not having any phone or internet access to do it? I mean, what else do I do??

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