Neighbours’ leaving-the-house ritual

[warmeduppizza]

Next door neighbours have got primary age kids. Every time any family member leaves the house for school, work, activities or whatnot, the remaining members of the household enthusiastically gather in the doorway and perform this lengthy and noisy ritual as if they’re never going to see each other again. They jump up and down and shout BYE!! at the top of their voice, alternating with the person who is leaving, at increasing pitch and volume, for the entire time it takes the person to walk down the street and round the corner (about 30 houses).
The first few times I found it quite endearing, but after two years of being subjected to this several times a day, it’s beginning to really grate. It’s loud, frequent and in your face (long narrow echoey street of tall town houses).
AIB a grumpy old fart or do they sound a bit unhinged?

[Annoyedtoomuch]

I feel irritated just by the description but I’ve just posted a thread about my irritability!

[CathyorClaire]

YANBU.

They're unhinged performing in their own soft focus soap, OP.

Maybe a robust chorus of 'So Long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen, Adieu' each time they're on stage might work?

[Doggydoodah123]

I agree that this may come from a place of anxiety about something happening to the people you love and not getting the chance to say goodbye. It's all good and well laughing over someone's ritual and it sounds like it is very over the top but I can sort of understand why they might be doing it. When I wave my children off I literally wave until they are out of sight. It makes me feel better.

[EmmaH2022]

Me and my mum are the sort of people who sit on the sofa and cuddle and say "I love you" at the end of phone calls.

Sorry if that makes people feel a bit ill.

What we have never done is shout about it at the front door because that would be really annoying for other people.

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[Libraryghost]

My neighbour does this with her grandkids who are there everyday. She absolutely bellows 'BYE BYE Babies . Nanny loves you' The kids look terrified

[FannyCann]

The mum in the house behind me has two teenage boys, and every morning they are walking down the drive leaving for school she shouts out "Education, woo hoo! It's a privilege!".

This should become a Mumsnet thing. Kids up and down the country being shouted at to appreciate their education. Imagine a whole street doing it!

[NotMyRealNameObvs]

Oh my days, this was my Mum and then some! Every day she’d watch me leave, waving and shouting. I’d beg her not to - it was especially embarrassing as a teenager, but her standard response was ‘what if I never see you again?’.

And so the guilt-ridden ritual continued, through school, work, and eventually when I’d park outside her house dropping my own kids at the school near her house. Then she got ill, we didn’t really understand how ill but the waving stopped, and I missed it and even felt a little snubbed without it. And then she was gone. We were clearing the house out and found an old undeveloped film, got it developed and it included a picture of her waving us off in the distance, it was like a last goodbye.

So yep, absolutely batshit crazy - but absolutely wonderful too!

[Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals]

@MrsPnut

It's better than what I do to DH (not all the time admittedly) - After he has left the driveway, I fling open the front door and shout "And don't come back" then slam the front door shut.

I can watch him walking along the street laughing away.

Just spat my pepsi out at this. Cat is not impressed; I’m stealing this. 😂

[Cattoes]

Haha I can't drive so if I'm on an early shift and it's winter (too dark to walk in) my husband bundles the kids in the car and drives me to work. So the morning often starts with me ushering the children out of the door while saying "go go go!" like the start of the paw patrol theme tune. My neighbours have said we never disturb them but I do wonder if they're just being nice.

[Leilala]

@FontaineKhalid

Hahaha!

But it’s really so sweet that even though he has gone he still makes you smile every time you walk out the door.

[MRS54321]

Loud speaker
BYE! BYE!
Maybe they’ll dial it down a bit

[StormyWindow]

My childhood NDN did this! We're Black Country so it was 'ta ra! Ta ra a bit, ta ra!' over and over again, maddening

[EmmaH2022]

@howardmoonseyebrow

YANBU where I live, the next door but one neighbour would as he was leaving his house early each morning shout BYE, LOVE YOU, BYE!! When walking to his car ( parked on street outside house) . He’s got a really loud voice even when just chatting outside the house normally.

My bedroom is at the front of the house and in the summer when my windows are open this would wake me every morning 🤦🏻‍♀️ This went on for ages making me more & more annoyed, I get he wants to tell his family he loves them but please do it before you open your front door at 7am 😩

I got so pissed off one morning I shouted back BYE !!! LOVE YOU TOO!!

My DH was hysterical laughing telling me to shut up 🤐

Neighbour is quieter these days

Well played!
👏

[grapewine]

@Mamanyt

Or maybe they've lost someone who left on a routine errand, wasn't said "Goodbye" to, and never came home. That sort of thing will haunt you for...oh, say, 45 years that I know of.

[Ilovesandwiches]

Yeh that would irritate me haha! Every time!???

[CaptainMyCaptain]

@Mamanyt

Or maybe they've lost someone who left on a routine errand, wasn't said "Goodbye" to, and never came home. That sort of thing will haunt you for...oh, say, 45 years that I know of.

That happened to my cousin, he went out and was killed in a car accident.

I think it's the idea of getting noise cancelling headphones to deal with this that is OTT. How long does the process take? Surely it must be over in a couple of minutes.

[howardmoonseyebrow]

YANBU where I live, the next door but one neighbour would as he was leaving his house early each morning shout BYE, LOVE YOU, BYE!! When walking to his car ( parked on street outside house) . He’s got a really loud voice even when just chatting outside the house normally.

My bedroom is at the front of the house and in the summer when my windows are open this would wake me every morning 🤦🏻‍♀️ This went on for ages making me more & more annoyed, I get he wants to tell his family he loves them but please do it before you open your front door at 7am 😩

I got so pissed off one morning I shouted back BYE !!! LOVE YOU TOO!!

My DH was hysterical laughing telling me to shut up 🤐

Neighbour is quieter these days

[Mamanyt]

Or maybe they've lost someone who left on a routine errand, wasn't said "Goodbye" to, and never came home. That sort of thing will haunt you for...oh, say, 45 years that I know of.

[EmmaH2022]

Two years?
I'd have found a way to shut them up after two weeks

[Dentistlakes]

Very weird. I like peace and quiet so that would drive me up the wall. Get some noise cancelling earphones and block them out.

[Houstonjane]

Wow this would drive me bonkers. It is really over the top behaviour.

[Sceptre86]

My kids do this when we have guests and they leave. They'll always see myself or their dad to the door too and say goodbye, followed by hugs. We also get lots of cuddles when we come back home. I still see my dad to the door before he goes to work when I go home to visit. I don't think they ate particularly noisy but then I guess parents often get used to their own kids noise.I don't really care if we annoy the neighbours, their cats pooping in my garden annoys me as do the people that put their bin out at midnight.

I think it's just one of those things you have to put up with but if it's really grating maybe have a word. They might not realise they are being so annoying or loud.

[Createausernametoday]

Ahh bless! It’s a wind up and not true

[BoredZelda]

It's better than what I do to DH (not all the time admittedly) - After he has left the driveway, I fling open the front door and shout "And don't come back" then slam the front door shut.

😆😆😆

[romany4]

FatCatSkinnyRat

Could be worse..
m.youtube.com/watch?v=AxJWz-kn-rs