I'm organising a hen do for later in the year for my friend who I'm bridesmaid for.<br>She is getting married in Spain.<br>I've booked a hen do in Liverpool for 6 weeks before the wedding which is costing £340 each and we were all paying for the bride within that cost.<br>One of my friends who was attending the hen and the wedding has text over the weekend saying she can't afford to do both and is therefore pulling out of the hen do so she can still go to the wedding.<br>The thing is she had told us she was coming so now it means that we are short for the activities we had planned and either have to now do less than we have told everyone, or ask the bride to pay for herself.<br>She said we can keep the £60 deposit she paid. <br>AIBU to think that she's being a bit selfish, as she already committed to coming?