Let myself go...DH says
Embarrassed1987 · 04/12/2021 19:31
DH and I have just had a big row.
He’s been grumpy all afternoon and I asked him what was wrong and he’s just blurted out that he doesn’t understand what’s wrong with me 😔
That I’ve massively let myself go and that I don’t look anything like the woman he married. He’s right I know, which is awful.
I’ve gained weight, I was a size 10 and now a size 14.
My hair is brushed and clean but now my only upkeep is going to the salon every couple of months to get rid of split ends. When we met I’d have balayage and styled my hair regularly.
I rarely wear make up now, when I used to wear the usuals, tinted moisturiser, blush, get my brows and lashes done.
I do dress okay when I’m out and about but tonight I was wearing my big dressing gown and PJs (not very attractive I know)
This has hurt, and I don’t know what to do.
1Dandelion1 · 04/12/2021 19:35
Is he still the same (not going grey, no wrinkles, not developed a beer belly or thinning hair)?
Unless he's a perfect specimen of a man, tell him to do one!
ScheisseMinelli · 04/12/2021 19:35
I hope he is a perfect physical specimen to be making such stringent demands as regards your appearance, but my guess is he's no Brad Pitt, right? You deserve better
AnneLovesGilbert · 04/12/2021 19:35
Are you happy as you are? What’s caused the change? Is he the same as he was when you got together?
Is he really complaining about your appearance or is it more about your change or priorities and/or attitude?
ChocChipPancake · 04/12/2021 19:34
This is all part of growing old together, is it not?
Fair enough if you want to put make up on, regularly have hair done etc but if you don't that's also ok.
Surely he married you for who you are and not what you look like. People change.
Both myself and my husband have changed, we met as teenagers and look very different now in our 30's.
DrSbaitso · 04/12/2021 19:33
How much does he do of childcare, housework and general life shitwork? Which of you has more free time?
Twattergy · 04/12/2021 19:33
How's he looking compared to when you got married?
Pottedpalm · 04/12/2021 19:32
Do you want to change?
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