I’ve been admitted to hospital at 37 weeks pg and my do didn’t want to join me
PinkFing · 29/11/2021 06:51
AIBU as he’s got work in the morning?
I’ve had a really intense migraine all night and have literally been crawling around our flat in pain. He didn’t want to wake up Ans was telling me to be quiet. At three I called a taxi to take me in after speaking to triage.
I asked if he wanted to come and he said no as he’s got work in the morning.
I’m now dosed up on strong pain relief and have been told I’m staying in tonight. He said he’ll pop by after work.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
You have one vote. All votes are anonymous.
hardyloveit · 29/11/2021 06:57
He shouldn't have left you to get a taxi! He should have driven you however he wouldn't have been allowed in the hospital or ward due to restrictions. Hope everything is okay!
MiddayMass · 29/11/2021 06:57
He’s a bit of a dick for not getting up whilst you are in agony with head pain. You were crawling around in pain and he couldn’t be arsed to get out of bed? Wtf. Severe head pain is no joke and if it was something serious you could have deteriorated quickly whilst he was asleep in bed.
He’s going to have to get used to the idea being up in the night, you can’t tell a newborn to be quiet.
whitehorsesdonotlie · 29/11/2021 06:56
I'm sorry to hear this.
Sounds like you feel he has been unsympathetic and unhelpful when you've been in so much pain? What's he usually like when you're ill? Do you get migraines often?
You're in the best place. Rest while you can.
The pp is right - he may have not been welcome at 3am on the ward, but that doesn't mean he couldn't have been sympathetic!
Where do you live that you can ring triage? Do you mean 111?
Sirzy · 29/11/2021 06:56
He should have taken you in and shown he cared but he wouldn’t have been allowed in the hospital anyway.
Rest and take care of yourself
LefttoherownDevizes · 29/11/2021 06:55
Tough call, at our hospital you wouldn't be allowed in anyway but he does sound v uncaring and selfish.
So, maybe not to come with you but absolutely should have been up with you, speaking to the hospital etc.
I've been taken by ambulance with migraine before as they suspected a bleed, so you have my utmost sympathies. And glad they've been able to give you decent pain relief.
Hope you feel better soon
PinkFing · 29/11/2021 06:55
I thought it could be preeclampsia and my bp was high on arrival but urine fine.
GoodnightGrandma · 29/11/2021 06:53
The staff wouldn’t have wanted him on the ward at 3am anyway.
If it was pre-eclampsia I’d say he’s being unreasonable, but if it is a migraine then he needs to carry on.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.