When I was asked to be a bridesmaid, I did not realise quite how expensive it was going to be. Bride has bought our dresses - fine. She’s demanded specific shoes and told us to buy them ourselves. Gave us 48 hours and then added us to a WhatsApp group to call out who has and hasn’t bought them.<br>The wedding is early December so it’s hardly crucial they’re bought today. <br><br>This is in addition to the million other expenses so far. The lying for lunch on her dress fitting day (bridesmaids wanted us all to split it). The huge spiralling cost of the hen do. The travelling and accommodation costs for the wedding itself. The expectation of money for her wedding gift itself. <br><br>Now the chief bridesmaid is messaging saying the bride wants us all in bloody matching dressing gowns for the morning to have our makeup done. In the (frankly horrible) colour of the bridesmaid dresses with something stitched on the back about the wedding date. I will NEVER wear that again. I really don’t want to buy one… AIBU?