to be angry at finding a piccy of a womans rear on DH mobile phone

[ChampagneAndFlowers]

Namechanged for this as I am a bit embarrassed to say the least.

I found a piccy of a womans ass on his phone. When I asked him about it he said when he and the lads were out on Friday night there was a group of girls on a hen night dressed as nurses. As they walked passed them in the street one of the guys (the blokes DH was with) shouted out "nice ass" & this one woman lifted her dress up and flashed her harris for all to see - so DH takes a piccy.

This is the 2nd time I have found a piccy of a womans rear on his phone (he has a thing about a nice ass)and always catch him looking at womens bots but taking a photo is a bit bloody different don't you think? Would you be annoyed too or am I taking life too seriously DH reckons I am?

I am so annoyed with him I stayed at mums with the kids yesturday but back today after he told me it was only for a laugh and I was totally unreasonable. Do you think I overeacted?

[fireflyfairy2]

I am jealous & have trust issues... I wouldn't have spoken to dh for months if he came home with that on his phone. In fact if it happened I wouldn't be sure that we wouldn't split.

But as I said, I am very hot headed, quick tempered & extremely jealous.

[Wisteria]

to the married couple eeeww....

I wanted to tell her as she seemed lovely but can you imagine how she'd have felt right then in the middle of a works do?

I didn't even know whether she knew about the vid and it could have backfired terribly.....

[PixieDixie]

I would be mighty pissed off OP.

Wisteria - I would have told the woman what her scumbag DH did.

Friends of DH (a married couple) had great pleasure in showing us a pic of the same thing you described I mean WTF why do I want to see that?

[Wisteria]

One of the guys from somewhere I used to work took a video with his mobile of his gf doing something to him (involving being on her knees, you can work it out ) and then forwarded it round the factory - now that is a lack of respect!

I had a real problem talking to her at the Christmas do that year...........and just felt sooo sorry for her. I hope she never found out or if she did that she chopped the offending articles off first!

I don't think I'd get too hung up about that to be honest but your other post is very sad. I understand why you feel you can't leave though.

[DeathBySnooSnoo]

you always have a choice,honestly,no woman has to stay with a man she doesnt want to be with in this day and age(not in this country,anyway).

[helenhismadwife]

I would not be pleased at all, but put it in context of a lads night out to much to drink and possibly trying to look like jack the lad to his mates probably more him being a tit than anything else.

moondog your taxi driver sounds like the person to know if you want to find out all the gossip hope the chippy woman keeps away from fryer when playing

[glaskham]

it is a little wierd how he's been out on 2 occasions and on 2 occasions a woman has happened to flash her bum!!....i'd definatley be livid the second time!!!its not as if she'd flash her bum for 5mins while he had time to get his phone out and take a piccy..... (especially not in THIS weather!!!!)

I'd defo have words- surely you can really feel the way you say in your last posts??.....thats really upsetting if it is...... this is the man you fell in love with, married and have had kids with, surely you can talk to him and sort things out- would it change things if you told him what you said on here??

[Walnutshell]

Oh Champers, that was a sad post.

Regarding your OP - if you find it unreasonable, then it is. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks because it happened in the context of your relationship. If you want to play games, I suppose you could obtain a photo of a man's rear on your own phone - or perhaps simply ask dh whether he would find it acceptable if the tables were turned and you had been out with the girls and bumped into a stag night... But I guess this photo isn't really the main issue.

[handlemecarefully]

I'm sure.....not judging you, just expressing empathy...

[ChampagneAndFlowers]

I haven't got any other choice handlemecarefully (I wish I did).

[handlemecarefully]

[ChampagneAndFlowers]

I don't think he respects me tbh. His life revolves around work, alcohol, and porn. I have to admit he doesn't go out much but when he does he takes piccys of womens bums (well he has on 2 occasions).

Sometimes I wish I was on my own, a free woman with my 2 DC's, but unfortunately I cannot afford it so I guess for now I will have to stick with him.

[MrsSlocomb]

If it matters to you then it matters. He should respect that whether he agrees with you or not.

[Sidge]

I think that's really disrespectful.

Maybe try and get a collection of pictures on your phone of assorted mens knobs and show him?

See how he likes it

[Santasmissyontheside]

Now i'm a fairly jealous person and a tad bit firery so i would have blown my top.

If i were you take a pic of your bum and save it as his screen saver. Remind him who's bum he should be eyeing.

[moondog]

Yeah,it is a bit off but I really like him.

[handlemecarefully]

Moondog, I am particularly prudish tis true, but personally I would have to change my cab driver

[handlemecarefully]

I would lynch him by his testicles

[ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands]

Yes very "typical bloke" thing.. and yes it would piss me off/upset me too.

[DeathBySnooSnoo]

i think thats the worst thing about it-he actually took the pic himself and saw that womans bum in RL.

different if its just a pic sent by a mate or downloaded,but to take it himself?!

should we all send you photos of men's bottoms so you can choose the one you like best for your wallpaper?

[glaskham]

this morning my DH was asleep in bed and i was flicking through his phone as he'd taken pics of the kids on a day out last week that i hadn't seen- only to find that the first thing that came up was some dodgy porn......i wokehim to ask him (pretty angrily) and he said its funny and you have to watch it....'trust me, just watch it'...i refused and deleted it, he was a bit upset that i did because he said he wanted to show 'the lads' tonight at footy but i was more bothered that one of our dc would be messing with his phone (as they do ALL the time) and it would come up!!!

i dont think you over-reacted though i'd be the same if my dh had pics like that that he'd actually taken himself- any that he ever has like that are what a mate sends him and none are ever taken in the flesh, all internet downloaded!!!

[ChampagneAndFlowers]

eh? What you on about?

[moondog]

I am a respectable matron (or so I thought).
As for the taxi driver,I know him really really weel and we talk about all sort...mostly town gossip,which,on reflection probably does encompass woman from the Llanberis chippy indulging in a little DIY.

[ChampagneAndFlowers]

NFK - a bit sadistic aint it? .

[NKF]

Next time, tell him you've got a great video of a crocodile chewing a man's testicles. Would he like to see it? The man is really into it.